? for the men... Which is more important

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? for the men... Which is more important
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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 5:06pm

for sexual pleasure...that your woman be confident in her body image or that she actually have a hot body? please explain which ever your answer is.


I really really want to know the truth.


*edited* to clarify what I mean. Really, would you rather have


a woman that was overweight, had stretch marks from having your children, and things just aren't as tight as they once were...but she is confident and loves making love to you and is somewhat adventurous.


OR


a woman that is an ideal weight for her body, her skin is smooth and supple, her breast are tender yet firm,... but she often complains about her body and is selfconcious and is not very comfortable trying new things in the bed because she is afraid of how she will look.





Edited 2/12/2008 6:03 pm ET by maggiewilliams123

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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 11:48am
Well I know my dw isn't exactly the same physically as when we first got together, 2 children will do that to a woman. I know she has tried hard though maybe she hasn't always stuck with it at attempting to lose the weight from the babies. She definitely at age 26 has her battle wounds...few stretch marks, surgical scars etc. However I still lust for her as much as ever before. The sex is out of this world, she is definitely opening up more sexually over the past few years, as we have experienced MFF 3some with dw even pleasuring the woman orally. She has had a quazzy FWB, though I can't say that she has total confidence in herself and how she looks as she has always been a bit insecure. I know that if she lost 30lbs that would probably have a huge impact on how she views herself and I do everything possible to try and support her in her goals of weight loss. So granted yes the supermodels make my head turn and make me do a double take but nothing can replace the bond we share and the communication we have as well the ability to know how to press one anothers buttons in the sack!!!
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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 9:07pm

I love your question, and while my hubby isn't here for me to ask him, I'm pretty sure I know how he'd answer....


**a woman that was overweight, had stretch marks from having your children, and things just aren't as tight as they once were...but she is confident and loves making love to you and is somewhat adventurous.**


One of his favorite songs (he actually has it as a ringtone for when I call him on his cell) is this...


Hot Mama by Trace Adkins


You're doin' all you can to get in them old jeans.
You want that body back, you had at seventeen.
Baby, don't get down; don't worry 'bout a thing.
'Cause the way you fill 'em out, hey, that's all right with me.
I don't want the girl you used to be.
An' if you ain't noticed, the kids are fast asleep,

An' you're one hot mama;
You turn me on, let's turn it up,
An' turn this room into a sauna.
One hot mama,
Oh, whaddya say, baby?
You wanna?

Well, I know sometimes you think that all you really are,
Is the woman with the kids an' the groceries in the car.
An' you worry about your hips an' you worry about your age.
Meanwhile I'm tryin' to catch the breath you take away.
Oh, an' believe me, you still do.
Baby, all I see, when I look at you,

Is one hot mama;
You turn me on, let's turn it up,
An' turn this room into a sauna.
One hot mama,
Oh, whaddya say, baby?
You wanna?

I can't imagine me lovin' someone else.
I'm a lucky man,
I think Daddy's got himself,

One hot mama;
You turn me on, let's turn it up,
An' turn this room into a sauna.
One hot mama,
Oh, whaddya say, babe?
Oh, now whaddya say, babe?
You wanna?

You're one hot mama,
Let's turn this room into a sauna, yeah.
Whaddya say, babe?
Whaddya say, babe?


 

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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 9:16pm

Hi Maggie:


Hmmm....Give me a woman who can wants to be with me & desire me as I desire her....Mac

 

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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 9:54pm

Sorry been real busy, can't seem to get much computer time lately, except work of course.

Yes it is nice to see the same attitudes.

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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 11:36pm
Kristi, what a great song!!!!


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Fri, 03-07-2008 - 12:51pm
I would have to go with a woman that was overweight, had stretch marks from having your children, and things just aren't as tight as they once were...but she is confident and loves making love to you and is somewhat adventurous.
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Fri, 03-07-2008 - 1:28pm

Welcome to the board, dakmatt ... it's nice to have you joining in.





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Fri, 03-07-2008 - 1:53pm

I'll have to speak on behalf of my DH but I know exactly what he would say as he's had me both reluctant and now I am sexually confident.

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Sat, 03-08-2008 - 10:57am
Why thank you! BTW dig the new siggy ;)
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