Men who stay hard after sex?

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Registered: 07-14-2004
Men who stay hard after sex?
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Fri, 07-16-2004 - 2:46pm
Hi,

I’m new to the boards and I have a questions for the ladies and gentlemen. I’m a married 39 year old male with a unusual situation. Ever since I was young, I stay hard after sex. Sometimes it takes 15 minutes to go down. If I keep going, it doesn’t go down until after I cum again. I’m not complaining and my wife loves this little gift. My question is, are there other men out there like me? I haven’t discussed this with any of my male friends. My wife has brought it up to her female friends and it sounds like I’m in the minority.

Am I alone?

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 7:54am
You're not alone, m'man. I'm 35 and ever since I was a teen, I've maintained an erection after sex. Same as you, the second "round" usually finishes it off, but I can still get another erection fairly quickly after the second time. My wife is amazed by this, and has enjoyed benefits from it too, especially if I cum too quickly (it happens sometimes, much to my dismay). I've just never understood all those Viagra commercials. Can't even imagine a time when I couldn't get it up. I hope it stays this way. LOL
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 10:00am
I am another man who has been "blessed" with this gift. I understand that we are in the minority of men, but it isn't a rare thing. I am 74 and still remain erect, although for a lesser periond of time than when I was 68 or so and younger. I also could go for a repeat performance right after as long as I had a few minutes to recuperate. Now that I am 74, I don't even try for a second time. Let's face it, I am thankful to be able to do it every day if I so desire. Viagra, what is that?? LOL
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 10:33am
Hi gigi! Been a while. Sounds like you're still cookin'! ;)

Listen, I was wondering if you've heard of those priapism symptoms from any of your friends/associates that were blessed enough to make to around your age. Heard anything about it from them at all?

appreciate it

:)

 

C  H  A  R  A  C  T  E  R

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Registered: 12-24-2003
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 3:12pm
I was able to do this back in my twenties (39 now) and sadly the ability's gone now. I've been doing some active research though and have discovered a few things.

- There really is in fact no connection between ejaculation, orgasming, and the refractory (flaccid) period.

- The male body produces prolactin (milk producing hormone for women) after an orgasm. The theory nowadays is that this hormone is what produces the flaccidity after ejaculating.

- The "Coolidge Effect" is a real phenomenon. Calvin Coolidge (ex-president) hypothesized, and will live in infamy, for this one.

- Dopamine agonists can also have the effect of short circuiting the refractory period (RP).

- One of the symptoms of sickle cell anemia is priapism.

- Viagra doesn't seem to have any effect on RP. I heard Cialis does. Other drugs that "supposedly" achieve this is Cabergoline (a drug used to stop a woman from producing beast milk), Wellbutrin, and some drugs prescribed for Parkinson's.

Needless to say, I am still actively researching this "holy grail" I once had (ala Lorenzo's Oil). I want it back.

To those guys who can keep their erection, I wonder if have you had any bloodwork done recently? Does anything I've written mean anything relevant to you?

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Registered: 06-20-2004
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 11:26pm
I have been searching for others like me for a long time and recently discovered this forum. My gf considers my abilities a mixed blessing. I have at least two and sometimes even three ejaculations on one erection. This one erection can last for up to two hours (but usually more like 1+). I know... I know.... most women think that's too damn much. Sometimes, so does my gf.



After that, my refractory periods last only about 20 mins before I am able to get hard and start all over again but this time with only single ejaculations per erection/refractory episode. We loose count very often, but once counted 8 ejaculations in a single 6 hour period of solid bed play. I know... I know..... most women think that's too damn much! Although, she cums that many times too, so don't feel too sorry for her.

There are times that this ability is not realized, when we are too tired or just feel like cuddling. But when pump is primed...... ;)

I always thought that this was fairly normal and that the wham-bam stereotype was just a cruel slam on guys who approach lovemaking from a very selfish standpoint, rather than an true indictment of their abilities in bed. Just recently, I have found out that my "normal" is not necessarily so, and I guess that's a concern.

The bottom line is that it seems to work for my gf and me and we even talk of involving another woman (for sexual gratification only) since she is confident that I could handle someone else at the same time. I'm not sure if she is telling me that she's confident in my exclusive love for her, or trying to hint that I'm a little too much at times. Either way, the ED ads are certainly lost on me. I just hope that others like me stand up to the stereotype and tell the world that it's not bragging, it's just the facts ma'am.

Go get 'em tiger!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 11:41pm
I have this condition and thought that it was natural with everyone. I am 63 and was divorced about 20 years ago and have had a few relationships since then. None in the past few years. The lady that I was most fond of did not like the condition. She complained that the semen was gritty and abrasive and would make me stop after the first orgasm. It was very frustrating to be with a beautiful naked lady, have a rip roaring erection and not be able to use it.
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Registered: 12-29-2003
Sun, 07-18-2004 - 9:30am
For you guys who can stay hard and ejaculate several times in an hour or two, I think you're somewhat unusual because the majority of men can not do this, especially after the age of 35 or so.

I have a question for you , though. What about the quality of the orgasm? I remember in my 20s masturbating several times in one day and really after the second, or even the first, the sensation really wasn't that good and it was hardly worth doing.

taoist

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Registered: 07-13-2004
Sun, 07-18-2004 - 9:43am
I'm 46 and stay hard after I ejaculate. This is something I've always been able to do. My woman typically has 3 or 4 orgasms during one lovemaking session. One time she actually hit 7, but that was after we had been apart for a time. LOL. She isn't complaining. I'm in shape, go to thy gym regularly, and have had a check-up recently so I'm okay there.

BTW, although I stay hard, I rarely ejaculate a second time. But hey, I love making love to my woman so I consider myself lucky.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 07-18-2004 - 12:46pm
Para, I had to look up Priapism on Google. I had never heard of this term. I do not maintain an erection for long periods of time (1 or 2 hours). If my mind wanders off to other non sexual things, down it goes. I am glad that I don't walk around all day in an excited state. It only rises to the occassion!!
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Registered: 06-20-2004
Sun, 07-18-2004 - 3:34pm
I can say that the quality of the orgasm is greatly dependant on the time inbetween lovemaking sessions. Let me preface this answer by saying that I had the "Big V" 10 years ago, and the volume of ejaculate has decreased tremendously. Although I do keegle excercises (whenever I think about it) to "strengthen the shot" as it were, the volume of ejaculated fluid is still a lot lower than pre "V".

If I have gone a few days without orgasming, then the first shot is a pretty good amount and depends on how intense the sexual buildup or how long I waited to ejaculate that first time. The second and third on the same erection have the same feeling, yet less ejaculate material. Subsequent times find it harder to cum with decreasing ejaculate material, but with that effort comes pleasure for me and an intensity that I find very satisfying.

I must not have that dopamine or chemical rush after orgasm that I have read about on this forum, since I am not tired or sleepy after cuming. I seem to remember pre-vasectomy having some of those feelings, but as I get older (40ish) it's more of a physical sensation of stopping to rest for a moment, and less of a mental diversion.

Granted, there are times such as stress where my mind is unable to concentrate on the sex, and those times find my performance not up to par, but my gf seems to have the right combo of smarts and sexiness to get me focused again on the task in hand (pun not intended).

All in all, each time I orgasm is just great. The physical ejaculate diminishes until I can build it up again over time (2-3 days), but overall, the sensation makes it worth doing over and over again. At least for me.