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| Tue, 05-03-2005 - 2:03pm |
MEN- would sex on a first date put you off having a relationship with the woman?
- Yes-Please state why
- No
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I answered for my DH because we've discussed this many times over the years.
He would PROBABLY be put off by available sex on the 1st date because it would cause doubt for him AND whatsmore...it should cause doubt for HER! OF course, it would depend on how long you've actually known one another before the 1st date, too.
Edited 5/3/2005 2:11 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
It's a two-way street, isn't it? I mean, they both consent to the sex.
I don't know how you can disqualify a woman for having sex on the first date when you are having sex on the first date, too. Seems hypocritical.
And believe me, I doubt guys think about this much. I very much doubt most men would dismiss a woman for this.
You obviously didn't read my whole post since my DH said exactly the same thing you did about it being a mutual decision!
He just feels that WOMEN should be as concerned about a man who will hop in the sack on the 1st date, especially if they just met.
And no, my DH isn't hypocritical in the least. He lives his own beliefs and was a virgin when we met and married. So, obviously, he never held a woman to a higher standard than he held himself.
But, believe ME, men DO think about it. They may not say it AT the time, because they want sex, but they do consider it. Hypocritical or not, life isn't fair and double standards are alive and well.
Edited 5/4/2005 1:42 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
So, worrieddadof3, I'm curious. You've told us how you'd feel about it, but not how you rationalise it.
What about what's been said? That it's a two way street.
If you find yourself in bed with this woman on a first date, how can you judge her for being in bed with you?
Maybe she shares your feelings, but like you, has found herself in bed with you?
Why is it OK for you to have sex on a first date, but not for the woman?
I voted for my DH
We had sex on the day we met....nearly 13 years ago. And we have barely been apart since.
"With STD's rampant, you have to wonder about someone who would take such high risks."
And for one night of meaningless sex, that's no small consideration either.
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