Men/body hair: just wondering...

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Men/body hair: just wondering...
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Sat, 08-27-2005 - 3:10am

hey guys:

I was just sitting here thinking about body hair on men and how the preferences will vary from person to person.
I was just wondering what you guys think would be considered "too much" in terms of a treasure trail line, as well hair in the underarm area? I guess most guys I have seen in the past didnt have much of a treasure trail line, or hair that extends quite outward from the underarm area. Now im confused as to what would be considered too much and a level of proper maintenance for men.
And, how much hair is crossing the line when the underarms are lifted, to expose the hair from the side of the pit, outwards?

Also, if need be, how could I go about approaching this to a guy that may need to "maintain" a litte more in the distant future?

Cheers!

Leese :)

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 8:48am
There's no such thing as too much, it all comes down to personal preference- both yours and his. Personally I don't like really hairy guys but I don't mind a little bit. SO is pretty well groomed anyway. And if you think he's too hairy, just mention it without making a big deal. I asked SO to trim his underarm hair and he just said 'sure'-- no big issue for either of us. Just ask nicely and don't make out you're turned off by the way they already are.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 9:03am

There isn't an amount that would be considered too much, crossing the line


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Registered: 07-26-2005
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 10:07am

OMG, now MEN are expected to "groom"? All the "grooming" anyone needs, male or female, is soap and water. Maybe in another million years, human being will all be totally bald....but until that time, human beings have hair....on their head, on their bodies, and that's the way humans are made.

If a man wants to remove or trim hair on his body, fine. The same goes for a woman. But, for another person to expect someone to shave or trim to meet THEIR expectations is going too far! If you can't love him the way he is.....then there's something wrong.

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Registered: 08-12-2004
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 10:22am
Being a male, I just wanted to add that, some of us just don't know or pay attention.
I'm 42 and now I trim my underarms, chest, and down there.
As a younger man in my 20's and 30's I honestly didn't think about it. I had side burns that were way out of style for years until a friend told me to look around at other men and then myself. I couldn't beleive it, and thanked him for letting me know. I went home and got rid of the side burns. They didn't matter to me I just thought it was normal and never payed attention.
Of course in the last few years with the increasing "fad' of shaving pubic areas, I started to pay attention, then realized that I had extremely long chest, under arm, and pubic hair. So, I started trimming.
I think you should tactfully tell him that it would look much more attractive if he trimmed.
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Registered: 07-12-2005
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 11:53am

I've never even thought about body hair. Dh isn't very hairy and he does trim up his hair but that's a more recent thing. I never cared about it when he didn't trim. He likes the sensitivity from the shaved and exposed areas now so he's keeping it up. I guess hair is the least of my concerns when it comes to a relationship with someone...unless he was covered from head to toe in really long thick hair...that might be a turn off.


If I were you, I would just simply tell him how you feel about it. I don't understand how people can have sex with one another, totally giving all of themselves to another person and then be afraid to talk to that person. If a relationship is going to work, you have to communicate.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 8:04pm

I don't know what to think of men grooming their body hair. I've got a hairy chest but trim my pubic hair and I definitely prefer that.

I know that women shave armpits and legs and wax and bleach and all the rest, but it does seem somewhat more of a mission for a guy to do the same thing. Sure, there are plenty of guys out there that only have a little bum fluff in places, but I'm not sure how the hairy guys would get along having to remove it all. Don't forget that there are still plenty of guys that don't give a damn about their body hair or grooming either.

The guy that you are talking about sounds like he actually has very little body hair. You don't mention his chest at all - just his underarm and treasure trail hair. Personally I'd consider NO grooming to be the norm for men. As for trimming armpit hair? It actually sounds a little bit absurd to me. I mean, if that's what you want and prefer, by all means ask for it - he might be happy to oblige. After-all, it's not a big thing. But don't be surprised if he looks blankly at you and blinks once or twice when you ask him.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 8:30pm

Thinking about men shaving or trimming all their body hair, for guys who are hairy, where would they start and end.


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Registered: 07-26-2005
Sun, 08-28-2005 - 4:00pm

30 or 40 years ago, the only women who shaved their pubic hair were "professionals". Now, with the advent of bikinis, we've gone from "trimming" to full removal. Young women post asking if they should remove it before they find a boyfriend because a guy might be "grossed out" because they have what evolution intends us to have. They don't understand it's a FAD......nothing more. And most guys don't care WHAT's there!

Most European women never shaved their armpits or their legs until after WW2...when the whole world became "Americanized"! Many STILL don't....and they don't have problems getting a man!

Next, we'll be getting posts from guys......"I'm in a new relationship.....should I shave my pits before we do the deed, because she might be turned off?" How sad!

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sun, 08-28-2005 - 9:30pm

>>Thinking about men shaving or trimming all their body hair, for guys who are hairy, where would they start and end<<

Reminds me of something I read recently. A man commented of a past girlfriend "she was naturally quite hairy. But she shaved off all her pubic hair. The result was that she looked like Chewbacca with a bald spot" LOL

On a more serious note, if a man was happy with his body hair, I wouldn't suggest a change. Mainly because I'd be offended a man suggested that I change my hair habits. Do unto others......

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Registered: 08-08-2005
Mon, 08-29-2005 - 9:18am

I've dated a guy who's nickname was Austin Powers...And now my new bf shaves his chest. He does this on this own. As long as it's not in the way, I don't care. It's that simple.


I do find that sex is somewhat hotter with a bare chest. But that could just be him too.


I guess I'm undecided. But nevertheless...I would NEVER ask him to shave/trim. I do what I want with my hair...he does what he wants with his.


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