messy sex

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Registered: 04-17-2007
messy sex
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Tue, 04-17-2007 - 11:51pm
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now and we have been having sex for much of it, but recently I started letting him cum in me. I am on birth control so do not worry. At first it brought us closer together but it has recently been making sex more messy than anyhting. It is very distracting to have to "mop up" after or run to the bathroom right away and you do not feel like cuddling or beign close afterwards. Does anyone have any suggestions that could help. I feel as though this is bringing us further apart.

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Registered: 04-17-2007
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 12:15am
Hello! Maybe put a towel under you and kinda wipe it up a lil while cuddling. I always run to the bathroom so I can pee. (Worry wort about UTI) So, I know I am not much help. You could also keep some kleenex or paper towels nearby to use after you switch your position. Good Luck-Hope this helps some.
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Registered: 03-12-2007
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 12:23am
yeah, i don't like my bf coming in me for that reason :( i don't know how to clean it all up either. even if i rinse off or dry up with toilet paper or something, later i'll stand up and it'll go gooshing down my leg. it's so nasty. i'm glad i'm not the only one this happens to
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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 1:18am
Keep tissues at the bedside, and just put one between your legs. Very simple.
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Registered: 04-17-2007
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 8:31am
Yeah I could do that...its just alot and it comes out even after. And its just so unromantic. Too bad sex isnt like it is in the movies lol.
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Registered: 04-17-2007
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 8:34am
Yeah I think it happens to a lot of people just no one talks about it because its pretty gross...it sucks because on one end its nice to have him cum in me and on the other it's just way to messy. Mabye I'll just have to save it for special occasions.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 8:39am
I don't think most people think of it as gross! And, if sex was like it is in the movies, it would last two minutes, and you'd still have your makeup and hair in perfect condition! Most of us would rather have good old fashioned hot, sweaty and messy sex that can go on for an hour.
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Registered: 03-12-2007
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 9:25am
yeah, i only let him do it sometimes now. only if i'm goign to feel like getting up to clean and stuff or if it's earlier in the day. usually before bed i'll say no just b/c there's no way to clean it all up from inside me and when i stand up in the morning it runs down my legs...yuck
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Registered: 11-04-1999
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 9:26am

As a male, I find it very offensive that you find my sexual fluids "gross". Maybe you should just get a vibrator. Sure, there's no love, no warmth, no emotion...but at least it's not messy.

Greg

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Registered: 04-16-2007
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 10:41am
it doesnt bother me that its messy, whenever me and my bf have sex we just put a towel down... we have a special towel lol that we always use for it then after he just stays in me a little so we can both rest a little then we both take a shower together. so that can be an option for you... just take a shower together ater and wipe with the towel before.
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Registered: 01-24-2007
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 11:25am
I'm really confused by this post. LOL I've been married for 18 years, have 3 kids, and I have never had stuff running down my leg! I get up afterwards and take 2 minutes to go to the bathroom, pee and wipe. We then go back to bed to cuddle, I've never awoke the next morning to anything dripping or leaking. Hubby had a vasectomy, but I only noticed a slight decrease in the amount of fluid. Now, while I dont think its gross, I just feel more comfortable getting up. Its not a huge inconvenience, and I've never had a yeast infection or UTI, so I think its worth it. I cannot fathom saving him cuming inside you as a special occasion! LOL Its what I prefer, its more intimate, and the cleanup seems easier to me than the alternatives.

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