messy sex

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Registered: 04-17-2007
messy sex
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Tue, 04-17-2007 - 11:51pm
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now and we have been having sex for much of it, but recently I started letting him cum in me. I am on birth control so do not worry. At first it brought us closer together but it has recently been making sex more messy than anyhting. It is very distracting to have to "mop up" after or run to the bathroom right away and you do not feel like cuddling or beign close afterwards. Does anyone have any suggestions that could help. I feel as though this is bringing us further apart.
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Registered: 08-25-2006
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 11:38am

I have to agree with you amom. I've never had anything like that. I find condoms a lot messier and more inconvenient. I was a bit baffled by the OP. But I guess everyone's different.

Personally, I don't see what the big deal is. I shouldn't think it takes so long to clean up that you're gone for ages. I keep baby wipes by the bed, and we just do a quick wipe after sex, and that's that. No one has to leave the room straight away or anything. If we've had sex before getting up for the day, we'll just hop in the shower. If we're in the kitchen, napkins or paper towels are always on hand. If we're in the living room, there's usually a roll of loo paper in there anyway.

Nothing messy or gross about it. It's a part of life.

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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 11:42am

It's funny how different people think different ways.

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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 11:52am

I agree with you Greg, I would be offended if my sexual fluids were thought of as *gross* also and I know Dh wouldn't be to

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Registered: 08-25-2006
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 12:45pm

Very true.

It always helps to put yourself in the other person's shoes.

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Registered: 04-13-2007
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 2:02pm
Lol this whole discussion is funny. Last Sunday I had sex with my bf in the back of a minivan. He'd been away for 10 days and apparently hadn't gotten off. He came inside me and there was just so much frikking cum. I was wearing a black cotton skirt with no undies and after I dropped him off and drove home, I was literally soaking the skirt. Then more came out the next morning. But that's okay because almost always he does facials which as you might guess tend to be even more messy. Pillows; furniture; clothes; hair etc. It's a very cummy relationship lol.
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Registered: 06-25-2004
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 3:01pm

As a male I also agree with greg.I too find it offended when you say and think that a man's sexual fliud is gross and sex is messy.I thought that it's suppose to be that way when a man and woman comes together to have sex.Especially if the woman are letting the man cum inside of her.

I have a question for you and the other girl who says the same as you:
What if you and your boyfriends or husbands were doing it to get you 2 pregnant.Would you 2 feel the same way about it as you 2 feel now?

What if your boyfriend thought and felt the same way about your sexual fliuds and you knew about it.What would you 2 think and How would you feel?

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Registered: 01-17-2007
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 3:12pm
I agree with Greg also. I love for my bh to cum in me and I don't find it messy at all. I enjoy feeling his cum inside of me and if it seems to be running out of me I either wipe with a towel or use my hands and then lick them. I find this wonderful. Some may find this gross but it is very romantic to me. If it bothers you it sometimes helps to keep your vaginal hair in place as it catches some of the cum and it won't run down your legs.
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Registered: 06-25-2004
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 3:20pm
loveitalot,
Sorry you must have misread what I posted.I am NOT the one who has a problem with it.I think you need to read post 1 her and another girl is the ones who is saying how messy and gross it was not me.
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Registered: 04-17-2007
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 3:31pm
To all the guys who posted about their feelings about me calling their cum gross, I really don't care. Personally I posted this to see what people did when this happened and if there were any alternatives to what I aldready do about it now, not to find out personal opinions of cum. Also, your a guy, and guys know nothing about how it feels when there is an etrememly sticky fluid dripping down your legs. Let me know the next time that happens to you.
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Registered: 08-25-2006
In reply to: sweetht42
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 3:56pm

Well how would you feel if your boyfriend didn't like giving you head because he thought going down there and having your juices on his tongue and face was gross?

You just have to be aware of the things you say sometimes. That's all they were trying to say. People did give you suggestions as to what they do. But someone was offended at what you said when you offered a personal opinion. So they offered theirs.

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