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| Tue, 04-17-2007 - 11:51pm |
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now and we have been having sex for much of it, but recently I started letting him cum in me. I am on birth control so do not worry. At first it brought us closer together but it has recently been making sex more messy than anyhting. It is very distracting to have to "mop up" after or run to the bathroom right away and you do not feel like cuddling or beign close afterwards. Does anyone have any suggestions that could help. I feel as though this is bringing us further apart.

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Welcome to the board sweetht42. When all of the fluids from both of your bodies are present, there can be a bit of a mess, but that is not necessarily a bad thing. As others have mentioned, you can have a towel or tissues nearby to help with the mess. It is always recommended that you go to the bathroom (pee) after sex. There is a lot of bacteria that can be transferred around (even with the use of a condom), and urinating is one way of allowing your body to cleanse itself. That doesn't mean you need to hop up right away and run off to the bathroom, but you certainly do not want to settle into a snuggly sleep. If you feel the mess on the bed (or wherever you are) is too much, try putting a towel beneath you prior to sex. It will not only collect much of the wetness, you can also use it to wipe yourself off prior to getting up. While you are using the bathroom, just sit there an extra minute or so, push out a bit (to help get all of the fluid out of your vagina), and be sure to wipe front to back until you are dry.
If you are having problems with dripping on the way to the bathroom, having the towel (or paper products) handy will help you to clean up some before going. Another recommendation is to use it as an opportunity to practice your kegels (and hold them) while you make your way to the toilet.
The fluids that are present also provide excellent lubrication if he is going to manually stimulate you after intercourse. Many women find that they do not orgasm during intercourse, and all of the wetness that is present can go a long way to helping you achieve an orgasm (first, second, third, whatever the case may be).
I would be concerned about the perception you may give your BF by thinking his sperm is gross. That could be a huge turn-off for him, or it could damage his self-esteem. How does he feel about the mess? Is he reacting to it, or feeling self-conscious about your concerns?
You asked a good question, first I thought the same way. But then again I prefer oral sex. If this is how your feeling maybe letting him cum inside you isn't the best thing. My husband and I will have intercource for a little while, then I finish him orally. This way when he's finished we can cuddle up.
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Welcome to the board howie_t. Thanks for joining in -- I think you brought up some good points.
sweetht42,
I'm very sorry if it seems like that us guys were attaching you,But in all truth we weren't and I know that you didn't post it to get our opinion on sperm .I was letting you know in a way that you might would understand how your boyfriend would feel if he found out how you felt about his sperm and it being in you also with it being all sticky,coming back out running down your legs like you mentioned.Like I said I am very sorry if you got offended about what I posted and said.I hope that you will except my apologie(sorry for the spelling).I kinda understand why you would think that way,but you should think about this too,as long as it's between 2 people who gonna love and being with eachother for maybe the rest of their life their bodily fliuds shouldn't be gross especialy their sexual fliuds.That's all I have to say except just wanted you to unedrstand the reason I said what I said.
Howie_t
I'm not a guy, so I
i do not find your sexual fluids gross.
he can shoot anywhere on my body
he can go inside me
anythiing that drains out and creates wet spots is fine
when he doesn't go inside of me i usually sit up and get excited to watch it shoot
i do get up and clean off, but if i lay down right after cleaning off and get up hours later or in the morning, then stuff runs down my legs sometimes. and if it makes you feel better it is a combination of our fluids that's running down my leg. it's not the fact that it is the fluids. it's the fact that nasty, wetness is running down my legs.
i don't think anyone would enjoy standing up and feeling like they're uncontrolably peeing their pants.
and i wouldn't be offended if he wouldn't go down on me b/c i know that there are guys that are not into it.
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