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Minute Man...
| Mon, 08-30-2004 - 3:54pm |
HELP!!!!!!!! My boyfriend and I have been dating since June 2004. We were together off and on before that, always a high sex drive, but he's not used to getting it as often as I did or as much as I wanted it, so he's become a minute man. I hardly ever get to climax with him because he's so quick. I love him dearly, and I've known him for 4 years. The only time he doesn't come early is if he's taking viagra or something. He's only 26!!! I'm 21!!!!! He says he tries to think of other things, but it doesn't help. I want a passionate half hour out of him!! HELP!!!!!! Is there something we can do? More frequently? (it's gotten a little better, but not much and only on some days) It's been 2 months and i'm really not seeing a change... LOL... I'm losing my mind with sexual frustration!!!

Also, he CAN train himself with the stop-start method if he wants to. He just has to learn to stop before it happens, get control of himself and start again. Eventually, he'll be able to control it, and last longer.
Also a side note on Viagra......he's 26 and he doesn't have ED, so he didn't get it from a doctor. He's playing with a dangerous drug. Men have been known to die from it. He doesn't have a clue what the proper dosage would be for him. Doctors screen their ED patients carefully before prescribing Viagra. Do you feel him lasting a few minutes longer is worth risking his life?
Are you aware that the majority of men can't do a passionate half hour?
Is he literally a minute man or are you using this as a euphamism for simply being quick?
I'm glad someone brought this up..
It always amazes me that there are people
out there that will take a pill w/o looking
into the side effects...
Very scary.
Some men respond fairly well to de-sensitizing creams and condoms, others don't respond at all. I've read that using more than one condom helps too, but again, that only seems to work with "some" men.
Any chemical or substance that slows down blood flow is worth remembering also. This includes smoking, or drugs, or even eating habits that include higher amounts of cholesterol. Lack of exercise and high stress/anxiety are things that many doctors often seem to poke at as well.
Substances such as caffeine that cause parasympathetic nerves to become more sympathetic have been reported as problematic as well. When those special nerves become too hyperactive, or sympathetic, then they lack the energy needed to maintain full functionality in the penis. The parasympathetic system is what keeps erections hard and helps keep the ejaculation under more control. Dramatically reducing caffeine and drinking water, along with keeping a very healthy eating habit and lifestyle, usually does help .
Also, these tips have helped many men with these issues too:
http://www.sexhealthinplainenglish.com/men_articles/premature_ejaculation/premature_ejaculation_2.htm
Hope this helps a little; has helped me, thats for sure. Even when my wife & I thought all was fine, I've taken the advice anyway and have actually become better for her.
C h a r a c t e r
above all else
Mr. Para
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