Missionary vs. Cowgirl....

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Missionary vs. Cowgirl....
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 7:20pm
Which is better and why?


i prefer Missionary. Or guy on top i should say. to me the term missionary sounds dull. Why did they even name it that? Anyways. although I do like riding my guy, I get alot more excitment when he is on top. When you're in missionary, you can either make slow passionate love, or you can have some hard and fast rough sex. i like it when my guy puts my legs up over his shoulders. the feeling is so deep. there is this other thing I love. Basically you start missionary and while he is in you, you close your legs and have him straddle you. He then just grinds real hard against your clitoris area. Circles, side to side, It is amazing. Oh yueah and Ishytish, I love your comments, and you seem to know alot. Could you please enlighten us on some new missionary variations?

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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 1:07pm
How do y'all feel about the "reverse cowgirl"? To me it is a visual turn-on but my SO refuses to "go there". On the other hand, her uterus is at an odd angle so doggy style is actually uncomfortable for her.
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 1:21pm

You know my favorite cosmogall as we have discussed this on a few other boards, cowgirl is my favorite, but that doesn't mean I don't love missionary and every other position there is.


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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 1:42pm
"Christian Missionaries", particularly those in the past....whose "job" it was to convert the "heathens" can't be compared to the Bible, or what is "taught" in the Bible. And of course, there are "Christians" (as opposed to Jews or Bhuddists or Muslims) and there are "Christians". There is (are?) a large variety of "Christians", all of whom have different interpretations of the Bible. Some sects forbid wearing make-up. Some forbid women from cutting their hair. Some feel that women should wear long skirts and long sleeves in public. The Amish and Mennonites are "Christians", too. The Crusaders were "Christians", and they weren't much different than the extreme Muslim groups of today.....who feel that it's "their way" or "no way"!

I consider myself a Christian, because I'm not Jewish, or Muslim, or any other religion. But, there are Christians who would say I'm NOT a Christian, because I haven't been "saved"!

In any case, that's why "that" position is called the "Missionary" position. Because that's what they promoted, rightly or wrongly.

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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 6:20pm
I agree, sometimes it does seem like people try to put missionary against cowgirl. There is no way to compare the 2. I think we should just do what feels good. It is no suprise that for the most part, We women do favor missionary sex. I use various positions, but there is something about having your guy on top that makes it the preffered position or as Cosmo magazine calls it the blue print of sex. My bf loves this position cause he says it never gets boring due to all the variations. Sometimes during cowgirl sex even though i try reverse, facing side ways or just bouncing on him, i feel very staid, or should i say it sometimes gets boring. Even during reverse cowgirl, it starts to get monotnous.I love Missionary Sex. I think the reason it is the #1 Sex Position is because you can do so much. The regular missionary is cool but I prefer other variations. I like looking up at him, knowing that he is pleasing me. Watching his hips move sexily as he thrusts, arching his back. then as he drops his weight on me, the closeness, feeling his body compressing mine. As i wrap my legs around his waist. This is also the best position for kissing. Defenitely the raking of the nails down his back. Another good variation is the entwinement. During missionary he wraps his feet around my ankles. Wow it feels good. Then we kinda stretch each other out.LOL. Legs over the shoulder defenitely puts a smile on my face. Feels deeper than in any other position. Another thing i like to do is reverse missionary. Its kinda tricky, but he faces towards your feet and enters you at that angle. Its a total diffrent angle and a diffrent sensation. And my Favorite.... I actually learned this off a board. It's called THE CAT. Pretty much, start missionary and then have him drop his weighton you. Have him shift his hips so that they are higher than yours. Once he enters you, instead of thrusting in and out he is going to grind real hard against your clitoris. GOD that feels so good! He moves in circles, side to side, just goes wild on top of you. This variation is so good. If you have done this, what did you think? If you haven't, try it and I guarantee your best and deepest orgasm ever.
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 6:32pm
It really is impossible to choose. My hubby likes me on top a lot so he can watch my breasts bounce, but with missionary, there are so many variations - like everyone is talking about. It's ALL good!
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 8:00pm
"its all good"... damn straight! I have nver had a bad orgasim! :)
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 9:28pm
LOL!! Lost me, Greeny...sorry. :)

You've made quite a few in your post, but no idea where you got them from.

Keeping in mind that this string isn't about that, but my question was pretty simple: Isn't it possible that other positions were taught to be sinful because of the 'abuse' of those positions as opposed to somebody simply saying it was sinful and thats it. That was the question. No answer from anyone yet as to a simple yes or no, but I'm guessing that OF COURSE its possible.

For anyone to say that the Christians...period...came along and sanctified this one position, especially for no reason other than personal belief without any Biblical backing, is not really justified IMHO...anymore than claiming one gender did this or one race did that. One group of people in those days didn't necessarily represent the whole, that was the point I was making...along with the point the example(s) I gave in my previous post.

Its not a crime to say what YOU think an actual Christian is, but just remember that THAT is your own interpretation only. I'm certainly not going to say I'm Oriental because I'm neither Indian nor Hispanic, lol.

Anyway, if the missionaries in those days actually DID teach that other positions were evil, then we TODAY must also have been taught WHY they thought that, since we've been taught about them already. ;)

OTHERWISE, I'm sticking with what I've been taught, since the explanation fits so perfectly without the loopholes. Regardless, all have own opinions and historical knowledge, but nice to discuss BOTH sides of an issue instead of simply reading one side. BTW, I'm an actual baptized Christian, believing in salvation through faith and not works according to the New Testament, so forgive me for speaking up when someone claims knowledge of my ...LOL!!

 

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Sat, 06-05-2004 - 1:29am
Actually, as I understand it, when the Christian missionaries arrived in Africa, they found that most of the tribal peoples engaged in intercourse in ways and positions similar to those of the animals all around them. There was little in the way of lovemaking as we now define it.

The missionaries, believing that God surely did not intend for man to be so animalistic, immediately set about teaching face-to-face intercourse with an element of lovemaking (kissing, but this was to be minimal, no doubt - lol).

While we are on the subject, all evidence is that an early Pope set in place the "no meat on Fridays" rule that was still common among Roman Catholics well though the 1960's and 1970's simply as a way to help fishermen sell their catch. And, Jewish teachings against eating the meat of "cloven-hoofed" animals (pigs/pork in particular) is believed by many modern researchers to be simply a response to the knowledge that many people became ill aftr eating said meat due to what we now know was caused by an infection with the larvae of the trichinosis worm.

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Sat, 06-05-2004 - 1:39pm
This has always been my understanding as well, Jackson. They believed face to face sex would promote intimacy and strength in a family and a personal bond between couples, rather than merely viewing sex as just a physical act.
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 8:28pm
It started earlier than the Victorians, lol....and actually the Victorian age was quite sex-obsessed, when you delve into that period!
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