More than "benefits?"
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| Thu, 11-15-2007 - 5:00pm |
I've been dating this guy for about a month now. We had sex about 3 times already, and we hang out together mainly on my days off from work. Just recently he mentioned that he has a vacation planned in another state. When I asked how long he thinks he'll be gone, he said that he doesn't know. He offered for me to go with him at first, but I told him that I can't call off from work with only 3 to 4 days notice (& I assumed that he would've known that anyway). You see, our dates have been mainly "friends with benefits" deals. But he gets jealous whenever he sees any other guy look my way, & then competes for my attention. He especially starts to compete whenever he hears my ex-boyfriend mention me (at a local bar that they both tend to hang out at). Plus, he makes potential plans with me for the future. For example, my B-Day's coming up next month. He asked me what day & what I'd like as a present.

Welcome to the board, confused.
I don't think any of us can accurate speculate what he might be thinking or doing. The only way you will really know is to talk to him about what's going on, and if his feelings have changed. He might not even know how he feels at this point.
The one thing I wouldn't do is put faith into thinking that your relationship is more than a FWB arrangement at this point. That is the only commitment you have, and buying into thinking it might be more can really set you up to get hurt.
Why not ask him what his intentions were in asking you to travel with him? Or perhaps ask him if he wants more from your relationship. The more both of you keep your cards on the table, the more both of you will be able to develop trust, and the less likely either of you will get hurt.
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---decided not to say it, I misunderstood the point of her post!
Edited 11/15/2007 9:19 pm ET by luvs2run