Is more better

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Registered: 07-15-2004
Is more better
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Thu, 08-19-2004 - 1:31am
Hi everyone I am a little confused about a situation. Lately my BF feels that he wants sex more then i do. To the point where he feels like he is begging fo it. On the other hand i don't want it as much as he does. But i don't seem to have any complaints. The thing is i don't want him to be unhappy or unsatisfied. What should i do about this little situation. Oh yeah if you don't have anythng constructive to say please do not reply thank you in advance.

bella

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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: luv4bella
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 1:38am
Is "compromise" constructive? You're happy, because you're getting what you want. Unfortunately, he's not happy because he's not getting what he wants. So.....if you want him to be happy, then you have to talk to him, and meet somewhere in the middle. More than you want, and less than he wants, but it's called a compromise.

More IS better, if you want more.

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Registered: 05-18-2004
In reply to: luv4bella
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 2:36am
What kind of compromise would he agree to? How much more often than you does he want it? Do you ever have sex even if you are not in the mood so that he is happy? There are times when my DH wants it and I don't, and we will just have a quickie or he will get oral. When I want it but he isn't up to it(rare! lol), I have a vibe. Perhaps you could have sex a little more often, and perhaps he could masturbate the other times? People go through times where they want it more and times where they want it less, and I doubt this will last forever since you say it is recent. The only way to figure out a compromise, is to talk to him.

Leticia

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: luv4bella
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 8:14am
Not all couples have the same sex drive.

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Registered: 07-22-2004
In reply to: luv4bella
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 9:41am
Mrs. Para & I have this problem, primarily because of our schedules. Our way of working it out was to 'communicate' the issue and 'agree' that "its okay" to either want it more or not want it as much.

Assuring each other that nothing is wrong with having different sex drives was what worked for us. It happens, and I personally don't see it as something that to be "fixed" even though it'd be nice to keep the more needy partner satisfied.

I encourage you to check out the following message board that actually concentrate's on this very issue, and then please feel free to teach us what you've learned if it has helped you, k? Good luck, luv! :)

Clashing Libidos

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlclashing

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