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More Exciting Sex?
| Thu, 11-18-2004 - 1:02pm |
my boyfriend and i have been having sex together, exclusively, for about 2 1/2 years. i love it and he loves it and everything's almost perfect. the only thing is, i can only orgasm if i'm on top. i want to go from other positions, and i could go from them in the past. but for, i guess, like the last 6 months, i have to be on top. he feels like he cant make me go, and im not looking forward to sex anymore becuase it's really the saaame thing over and over again. (my orgasms still feel REALLY good though!) are we being silly, and should we just be happy that we still like each other enough to want to have sex everyday? do i just need to relax and let myself go and let him help me out? anyone have any suggestions on what i can do to relax more, if you think that's the case? please help up :)

It looks like it could be a couple of things.
First both of you have to stop worrying about your orgasm so much. You've gotten yourselves into a routine and really, both you and your b/f, think that you have to finish with you on top so that you have an orgasm. Break the routine, try some different positions and things in the bedroom and don't worry so much about your orgasm. You can always jump on top if you really want to cum, in the meantime, why not have some fun and play around a bit? Don't take it so seriously and just make the concious decision to mix it up a bit in the bedroom.
There are plenty of different positions to try and you can always experiment with oral sex a bit more. If your b/f spends a bit more time giving you oral sex and you actually help him and guide him to stimulate you just right there is a good chance that you could orgasm from oral sex. You'll need to be a bit more proactive and show or tell him how to touch you though. He's not a mind-reader.
There are plenty of sex toys that you could try to spice it up a bit too - most women can't cum from intercourse alone and a vibrator is a fun way to have an orgasm and a fun way to have some fun in the bedroom. You may find that using a vibrator on yourself while he penetrates you in another position may well give you some great orgasms. Even if it doesn't it will have been very enjoyable.
One last thing: Because the two of you have gotten into a routine and you on top is the only easy way for you to have an orgasm the novelty of doing stuff may have worn off on your b/f and he has gotten a bit lazy. He thinks "Oh well, it's easy to make her cum if she gets on top, I don't need to try anything else because my job is done if she cums". Get him out of that by trying new stuff and trying more oral sex.
Sex isnt' all about the orgasm. You say you dont' look forward to the same thing over and over, but I don't see any reason in your post why you shouldn't do other positions. Not every position used during sex has to result in orgasm. So, if you want to do missionary or doggie, just do it and have fun and who cares if you dont' orgasm every time.
That said, if you *really* want the orgasm, do WOT first, have your O and then do something different to provide the variety. WOT is the best way for bf to cum, but we do a lot of things on the way there ...
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