The most significant factor of truly ...

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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 9:50am

The most significant factor of truly fulfilling sex is...



  • How long it lasts.
  • The intimacy, regardless physical satisfaction.
  • The high from intensely pleasing the partner, regardless of self.
  • Perfection both physically and intimately, must be both.
  • Nothing, cause it's ultimately impossible.
  • Having an orgasm, no matter who or how.
  • How often I can have it.
  • Fulfilling sexual fantasies.
  • A preference that varies from time to time.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 9:59am
Good question. I voted for pleasing the partner because if I have an orgasm but she doesn't enjoy it, it doesn't feel very good. However, if she enjoy's what I'm doing to her, it heightens my experience and makes the orgasm better.
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 10:39am

10-4, brad!

Thats how I view it too. I didn't vote for that one, but I completely understand your point. Some people can enjoy without the partner enjoying as well. Some can enjoy without the partner at all.

I'm not one of those either.

Tons of ways to go on this though. Curious to see the poll results over time...very curious.

 

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Registered: 10-31-2005
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 12:26pm
I wish to support your comment and echo your sentiment; I feel the same way.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-24-2005
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 3:05pm

I did not vote, because I did not see an option that represented my view.

For me, the most fulfilling sex is that which brings about the deepest spiritual connection.

E :)

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 4:20pm

I voted "Perfection both physically and intimately, must be both".

Achieving great intimacy is nice, having physically great sex is fine too. But get the two of them sync'd and peaking and you have truly mind-blowing sex.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 4:22pm

>>For me, the most fulfilling sex is that which brings about the deepest spiritual connection.<<

Couldn't that be classed as "intimacy"?
You're not getting out of answering the question lightly, you know! ;-)

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Registered: 12-24-2005
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 7:09pm

I suppose it could be. Intimacy is different for everyone, and I was attempting to differentiate between intimacy and spirituality in that for me,

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Registered: 07-16-2003
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 11:26pm
For me it is definitely the intimacy factor. That said, my honey can last!! So the two combined together make it more enjoyable than it has ever been before.
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Registered: 07-16-2003
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 11:33pm

But I personally think the connection between intimacy and spirituality is very close. I can't have intimacy with someone unless I feel connected with them on a higher level -- as opposed just fitting well together physically. I haven't felt true intimacy with very many men. I think it took me until I was 41 to figure that out.

p.s cute picture!

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Registered: 01-07-2005
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:44am
What a wonderful thought/question. I voted for the last one, because for this female, it varies. Sometimes it's just a pure sexual hunger that won't acknowledge his needs. Then there's times when he is so totally into "IT" that I just let him have his way, any way he wants it. All in all, my significant factor of "truly fulfilling sex" is two-fold. 2) Laying there afterwards wrapped in his arms regardless of good it was; 2) as we lay there having him stay inside unti it falls out on it own. Sometimes, I think I'm in heaven! :)

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