"The motion of the ocean"

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"The motion of the ocean"
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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 11:38am
Ladies, most women will say that it's not the size of the penis that is important. It's the motion of the ocean and how he uses it. Let's hear some details of this. What have the best lovers of your life done to make it good for you? Include both foreplay and actual intercourse.
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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 12:12pm
It's not what HE does,

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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 12:29pm

"The motion of the ocean" takes a lot more than a penis of ANY size. It's not only what he does, or what he does it with.....it's ATTITUDE. The BEST lover(s) I've had weren't there for their own satisfaction alone.....They took pleasure in GIVING pleasure. They thouroughly enjoyed what THEY were doing.....they weren't just doing it because they were giving ME pleasure. I've had some of the best experiences when the penis didn't come into play AT ALL, except as an "afterthought"!

Any man can read, talk, investigate or whatever, and learn what women want and need. But if they're doing it because that's what they're SUPPOSED to do.....then a woman can sense that. She WILL appreciate his efforts, but if it does seem like an "effort"....it loses something. I've been with men who are obviously going thru the "routine"...."ok, I did that, now I'll do this next". They were very good at it, but they were just "doing it", and NOT enjoying it. That's what causes women to get the "guilties". "I'd better hurry up, he's working his way to the end"!

When a man is obviously getting pleasure from what he's doing, if his partner has any feelings for him at all, she will reciprocate in kind, and she'll get just as much pleasure from the giving as the receiving!

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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 2:47pm
Those statements "Its not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean"..or Its not what he has its what he does with it..have baffeled men for generations..lol..In my own experiences, with women who ARE orgasmic thru intercourse, once you and she have found a good rhythm and she lets you know that the sensations are right, dont vary what you are doing. Keep the same motion ,tempo, rhythm, speed, stroke, whatever you want to call it..just dont change anything...unless she lets you know.It lets her focus on the stimulation and bring herself to orgasm...
I think its fairly safe to say the same thing about oral sex and women...One can lick around different places, different pressures in different places ..tongue only ....fingers and tongue etc...But when it gets right down to it..once she feels she is on her way, dont change up what you are doing.. keep doing what is making her feel wonderful, and she will be able to bring herself to orgasm.....
One big complaint from women about former bf`s is that they kept changing everything ..just as it was really feeling good, he`d change positions, areas of stimulation etc...Remember the ocean waves roll in one after another after another, the next one just like the last one..So as she is getting close, dont change anything.Watch a woman as she gets close when she masturbates or uses a vibrator.....Once she starts getting close, she changes nothing.`
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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 6:29pm
Attention to detail. That's what it's about for me. I like to have my WHOLE body made love to, not just my breasts and genitals. Unfortunately, that's not what typically happens because a man tends to want to rush to his own pleasure. Thankfully, I met and married a man who enjoys my pleasure and as a result, gets much more reciprocal attention and care in return! One tends to feel very grateful.
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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 6:33pm
Absolutely, Hump and that could be said for men as well. When it's working, you don't change anything!
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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 7:50pm
Absolutely, Hump and that could be said for men as well. When it's working, you don't change anything!........ =) I agree...but try explaining that to your "trying to impress her casinova types".....lol..I think some guys think "I`ll treat her so many different ways shes bound to like one of them"..lol