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my boyfriend is cheating on internet
| Wed, 07-20-2005 - 1:56pm |
I just found out that my boyfriend has been posting on the internet as a single male.I feel that he is obsessed with being someone that he is not,and plays with people's heads telling me it is just a game to him. We had it out,but I am not trusting him.I do believe that he has not actually had sex on the internet..anyone out there with this problem?
boudoirgirl

No, I don't have that problem and I would not put up with it.
No, I haven't. But this is emotional cheating, even if he never sleeps with another woman.
He's not only deceiving the women who respond but most importantly, he's being disrespectful to YOU and your relationship. Doesn't say much about his general view of women either.
Tell him to play his cruel "head games" on his own time.
Dump him and post your own "single but looking" ad!
Edited 7/20/2005 5:50 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
First of all, find out if this is just something that he's done as a casual passing curiosity or if it's something that he is actually doing full-time and long-term. If he's just done it as a "one-off" thing it might be foolish curiosity more than any serious intent. If he's really working it then you do need to talk to him about it.
Tell him that you don't find it acceptable for him to act like he is single when he is with you. Tell him that although he considers it to be a "game", that you don't and that many other people would share your opinion. Explain to him that you are taking it just as seriously as if he was down at some bar pretending that he was single.
While I don't feel that _anonymous_ internet "sex" is as bad as real life cheating, it's not acceptable if he's doing it without your permission or approval.
i did speak with him, and we will see...it was and is an obsessive behavior, one I am told that many men are living out their fantasies on the web.However,a trust has been broken for me,no matter how I do intellectually understand this "obsession",my heart hurts.He and I are both in recovery , me as an alchoholic,and him as an alcholic/drug abuser.They often say that you will shift your compulsive behavior to a different form. For me it was shopping.I have made arrangements for us to see a sex counselor.Thank you for your post...
boudoirgirl