Is my boyfriend Gay?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2007
Is my boyfriend Gay?
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Mon, 12-31-2007 - 1:41pm

Hello, my boyfriend and I used this theme while having sex where he was having sex with other women. This eventually escalated to him actually finding women on Adult Friend Finder and having sex with them. He would then come home, make love to me while telling me of all the sorted details. My orgasms have never been better. My boyfriend has recently confided in me that he's been sleeping with Transvestites. This may seem like a really naive question, but could he be gay? Or is this just part of a sexual addiction?

Thanks,
I'd appreciate all repsonses.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 3:03pm

Welcome to the board, stormygirl3131.

A lot of people have different fetishes and/or sexual kinks. I don't think his interest in transvestites means he's gay. If he were gay, he would be attracted to men -- who look like men -- and he wouldn't be interested in having a sexual relationship with you.

Having different sexual preferences does not mean that he has a sexual addiction either. Exhibiting risky sexual behavior can be a symptom of sexual addiction, but it's not the only symptom of sexual addiction.

Here are a couple of articles you might want to review:

What is Sex Addiction?
http://www.redbookmag.com/love/what-is-sex-addition-ll

Obsessed with Sex
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/0,,4lx9,00.html

It's up to both of you to define the boundaries of your relationship, and for you to determine how you feel about him having sex with others (or what type of others). Since he does have multiple partners, hopefully he's practicing safe sex with the people he's meeting on-line and with you.