my face feels numb

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Registered: 11-18-2004
my face feels numb
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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 6:19pm

Why is it that when my bf fingers me my face starts to feel numb and tingle? It's wierd, and I have to get him stop what he's doing since I start to feel all light-headed and very uncomfortable (physically speaking). (It even happens in some intercourse positions.)I don't know how to explain it to him since he's always so worried about pleasuring me and making sure I'm not in pain. I don't want to say my face goes numb and not be able to offer some explanation for it since I know it'll just freak him out. But I do want to tell him what's going on for both our benefits, so if anyone could try to explain the reasons behind the strnage reaction I get, it would be AWESOME!

thanks
-sammy

(btw, for those who i have confused, I'm back with my ex)

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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 11:21pm
I'm not a doctor or anything, but can the act be bringing out anxiety, or nervous responses from you? I know it wouldn't seem like sex would bring on stress like symptoms but getting numb and light-headed seem very familiar. Often times when sufferring from such problems people experience numb, or tingling fingers (hands), feet, and mouth (tongue & lips). Sex can bring about quite the rush to the nerves. I have suffered from stress anxiety over the past 4 months and nerve related (brain related) responses under pressure can bring out some tremendously aweful physical responses, put life on hold for a bit,it can put you in the hospital with stomach problems, circulatory problems, passing out, numbness, muscle pain, feelings of unreality, tightness of breath, etc. Maybe you should look into it, who knows.


Edited 1/28/2005 11:23 pm ET ET by flyguy2004
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Sat, 01-29-2005 - 7:11am

I agree with flyguy.

 

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Registered: 11-18-2004
Sun, 01-30-2005 - 3:00pm

I'm pretty new to sex, so I'm guessing that when his thrusting gets too 'inense' i involuntarily freak-out. I dunno why tho, since I enjoy the whole idea of sex and intimacy. I mean, I LOVE having him in there, so why am I freaking out?? I definitely think it is anxiety since i'm very much familiar with anxiety. It's just stressing me out (my reaction, not sex), and I really don't want to worry him, since he's already so concerned with my comfort.

I think next time I'm gonna try to breath in deeply and relax and ask my bf to start really really gently. We'll see how that goes and I'll keep you posted, lol...

-sammy

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Sun, 01-30-2005 - 4:16pm
Perhaps you're overthinking sex? I would suffer from anxiety attacks too if I invested such thought into sex. The main thing is to take a calm approach to it. Relax before sex. I always find a good, hot shower calms me down...Whether I'm gearing up for sex or winding down from a nasty, stressful day...So, try some relaxation techniques and see if that helps.
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Registered: 10-16-2004
Sun, 01-30-2005 - 4:31pm

Hi Sammy,

If I remember right, you and your bf originally broke up b/c your family wasn't supportive, right? Because he's not part of your ethnic group? Now that you are back together, are you worried about your family finding out and getting upset and all that? That kind of stress on top of the normal relationship stress could really be affecting you. I hope things are working out OK for you.... there's hope sweetie, my own mother is Asian and my dad is white and they've been together for more than 40 yrs now...despite disapproving families... :)

A long time ago when I was new to sex and my bf at that time first started going down on me, my legs and feet would go numb. I think my body was just freaked out by the new sensations and also I was kind of uncomfortable w/ him doing that. As I got to like it (LOVE IT LOL) that numbness stopped happening. I haven't thought about that in, oh, about 20 years :)

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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 6:16pm
What it sounds like is that you're hyperventilating or breathing too fast and shallowly. Next time, be conscious of your breathing and slow it down to deep relaxing breaths and see if you can avoid the tingling and lightheadedness.