My father hates my boyfriend!

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Registered: 05-25-2008
My father hates my boyfriend!
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Mon, 06-02-2008 - 5:46am

My father found out I was having sex with my new boyfriend and he hates him!

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Registered: 10-15-2006
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 10:11pm

Strong women act more like men when it comes to sex.


Strong women act like strong women .....no matter what it comes to.


A stong woman doesn't act like a man, she acts like herself. A self she has come to know through self discovery, her introspective study of who she is and what she wants.


She is strong because she has conviction and does not concern herself with what others are doing. She has developed her own internal moral compass to guide her. She has sense.


She doesn't act like a man because she doesn't need to. She acts like herself.


Mrs P

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Wed, 06-04-2008 - 10:46pm

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Wed, 06-04-2008 - 10:49pm
"And it's about sex. Strong women act more like men when it comes to sex."


I guess that is a matter of opinion. As I see it, strong women make choices for the right reasons. A strong women wouldn't need to justify her actions, she wouldn't have sex just so she would have a boyfriend, she doesn't use people to show her strength.

Many women like sex, many women here have sexual appetites far greater than their partners, but that doesn't define their strength. Strength is built in character.

Personally, I have a very healthy sexual appetite, and I believe I am a strong woman. I don't believe my sexual appetite is a result of my strength.


You don't need to justify your enjoyment of sex to any of us. You asked for advice, and a lot of members took the time to give you good, solid advice. You have a wealth of knowledge and experience right here at your fingertips ... you get to choose how you will use it.


Perhaps there is a counselor at your school that you could discuss your situation with. It seems to me that you are confused about why you are having sex. You have taken a lot of time to explain to us the sex lives of many of the young women you know ... you have taken a lot of time to explain to us why you think your dad doesn't like your BF. You have even gone so far as to say that if girls don't have sex, they won't have BFs. It sounds to me like you are getting a lot of mixed messages. I think it's great that you like sex, but I think for your own health, you should be having sex for the right reasons. Those reasons should be about what you want for your life and not about what other people are doing. A counselor could really help you sort that out.


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Registered: 05-25-2008
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 10:55pm

Sorry, some info had to be modified to protect identity, just like they do in books.




Edited 6/5/2008 8:53 pm ET by southerngl
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Wed, 06-04-2008 - 11:00pm

I can't tell you how others will feel, but this is the second discussion you have entered on this board, both based on false information. In both of them, you have created quite the stir.

Personally, I take time to respond to the posts here, and I am rather insulted that you would create a grand scene and occupy my time on nonsense. If you want to know if your life would have been different had your father not had an opinion 17 years ago, then simply state your question and seek advice instead of trying to manipulate. Of course, that's JMHO.



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Registered: 10-04-2006
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 11:05pm
You are not alone in your feelings, Misty. I've chosen to use the "Ignore" feature with this particular person.


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Wed, 06-04-2008 - 11:35pm

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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 7:00am
I knew something didnt sound right in your post, every example you gave of your "friends" made them out to be weak minded fragile girls who were broken over their boyfriends mistreatment.
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Registered: 10-31-2003
Thu, 06-05-2008 - 9:23am

Hi everyone,


Please remember that when you post a personal story on a public messageboard you're going to receive all types of responses, some you like and some you disagree with.

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Registered: 05-04-2008
Sun, 06-15-2008 - 9:43am
At 19 having sex, now how would that gone over with my mother?

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