My First "O"!!!!!!!! BUT....

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-21-2005
My First "O"!!!!!!!! BUT....
2
Wed, 07-06-2005 - 9:21pm
I had my first big O a week ago and it was increadible. I had it orally(I haven't had penetration sex yet, so I'm still an intercourse virgin. My boyfriend and I have had oral sex again after that, and I got MORE. But there is a little problem... It takes me like forty minutes to get to that point ( siriously, I'm not lying). My poor boyfriends neck is about to break when I get it, he gets very tired. Is there anything I could do? I have tryed, consentrating and everything but it doesnt work.
Thanx for any responses
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 07-06-2005 - 11:47pm

If you stop "concentrating" and just ENJOY what you're feeling......that's what makes it happen. There's no time limit, and it will take you as long as it takes you. If he's getting uncomfortable, you can always change positions so that his neck won't take such a beating.

Don't worry about the orgasm, just enjoy what he's doing, and by relaxing, and just "going with it"....it'll happen a lot faster. And, if it doesn't, so what? Think of the pleasure you have trying! There's no rule that it has to happen every time, either.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2005
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 11:44am

A couple of things

About it taking long that shouldn't be a big problem. When me and my gf are going at it we sometimes take that long, or longer to reach our orgasms.

But about your bf's neck hurting, I could relate. I remember times where my neck would hurt because I was down there for a while. I'm going to take a guess and say that when he gives you oral sex you're laying down on you back with you legs open and he lays on his stomach? Because if this is the case, then of course his neck will be hurting.

What I did to help with this is at first to get my gf really wet and in the mood, I would please her from the position for only a few minutes. Then I would be the one to lay on my back and pillow under my head for support. Then she would get on top of me and in a sense, sit on my face. (not literally but, you get the idea) So from the position I can please her AS LONG as she wants me to with no problems.

jerz