My foul mouth

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Registered: 01-30-2004
My foul mouth
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Fri, 07-16-2004 - 6:08pm
I just realized that over the past few days as my relationship with a new b/f has heated up, my language has become really raunchy. It's not my vagina, it's my p______; not his penis but his big fat c___. And we don't just "have sex" -- he f____s me silly. The wierd thing is this is so satisfying -- a couple of years ago you would NEVER have caught me using these words -- I'm not going back to being G-rated. Ever! Not even at breakfast. So there. ;-)

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Registered: 06-20-2004
In reply to: christy_la1
Sun, 07-18-2004 - 4:00pm
To me, talking dirty is simply another form of intimacy. The fact that it's not "proper" civil form makes it a very personal and shared private experience. The words themselves could be anything as far as I'm concerned. It's the shared meaning of them between you two that makes them special to you.

Our language is somewhat unique that there are so many alternative meanings and words for the same object (ie vagina, pu__y, cu_t, others...) that just by changing the word, the object takes on either a clinical, sexy, derogatory or other meaning. The words are contextual and in the bedroom the meanings are so much stronger as I believe that if two people are in tune with one another, they become hypersensitive to the words, movements and motivations of their partner. (At least that's how good sex partners should behave.)

I'm with the suggestion that both men AND women should be ladies and gentlemen in public, and whatever you want to share with each other (as long as you both like it) in private. What's right for me may be all wrong for you and vise-a-versa.

Just because my gf likes to call herself my little "slut" does not mean that she believes herself to be that to others. She is simply expressing her desire to give herself to me unconditionally with the intimacy and trust in me that I will always try my best to look out for her physical, mental AND emotional well-being. It's her way of releasing herself to another (me) and giving in to her desires for being cared for. She trusts me and gives me that tremendous responsibility for her satisfaction and happiness, which I so gladly accept. Our respect and trust in one another runs much deeper than any words that could come out of our mouths, even though their meaning is sometimes a part of the excitement.

Christy, I say never be ashamed of doing what feels right in the bedroom as long as your intuition tells you that what you are doing hurts no one and makes you feel good. Don't let your public social programming get in the way of your private pleasure.

And if you have to have a foul mouth in public, just try to stay on the other side of the restaurant... please? :P

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: christy_la1
Mon, 07-19-2004 - 1:24am
My DH nor I can string two words together during sex! But you're right, some people find it erotic but moaning, groaning and sighing are about all we can manage.

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