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my friend's oral sex averssion please he
| Thu, 08-03-2006 - 2:29pm |
Hi. I met a lovely, young man about four years ago. He is now 22, to my 34, and we've recently started dating, and made love a couple of times. He had one girlfriend before me, but, that did not go well for him, she was a ragaholic, and he chose to break it off.
My friend comes from an extremely religous background. He told me he liked to masturbate, but, that he shouldn't, because it was wrong. He refuses to do oral sex on me, though he wants me to do it to him. He said when he tried it with his x, he didn't like the smell and taste, apparently, this was an issue for them. I'm an attractive brunette, very clean, brazillian waxed, the whole shebang. Um, what can I do?
Thanks.
My friend comes from an extremely religous background. He told me he liked to masturbate, but, that he shouldn't, because it was wrong. He refuses to do oral sex on me, though he wants me to do it to him. He said when he tried it with his x, he didn't like the smell and taste, apparently, this was an issue for them. I'm an attractive brunette, very clean, brazillian waxed, the whole shebang. Um, what can I do?
Thanks.

YOu should look for someone closer to your own age, with no religious or oral hangups.
You can't make someone do something they don't like to do.
All religious and Maturity issues aside (she never said whetether or not this she wants a long term relationship, or that he did either for that matter), you may be able to work him up to it...
Sit with him outside the bedroom, Tell him in a non forceful way that you would like for him to try, and that you will take baby steps and he can back out at any time and describe the proccess... also let him know that if he CAN go the distance you will make it worth his while (Make sure to make good on this promise if he does ;).
Start by getting him to play with you using his fingers for awhile, once things warm up try having him smell his fingers... if he is OK with the smell, see about getting him to take a little taste or two. If that works out OK then you might ask him if he wants to TRY Oral with you.
Just don't rush him, be patient and understanding with him if he can't go through with it... his ex may have bullied him into it which if you are not sure you want to do something and then are pushed into it all the potential for enjoyment kind of gets sucked out of it.
Good Luck!
-Ken
I agree with much of the previous poster's advice.
When I was a young lad I had a similar experience. My first 'taste,' so-to-speak, wasn't very pleasant for me, though I remember my GF at the time enjoying it.
Some time later I dated a woman in her 30s (I was in my early 20s), who understood my reluctance and was able to go slowly and reassure me so that cunnilingus became one of the most enjoyable forms of lovemaking for me from that point on.
The relationship lasted only six months as we probably didn't have enough in common to sustain it long-term. But I do have fond memories when I think back on it.