My Girlfriend

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Registered: 12-23-2007
My Girlfriend
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Sun, 12-23-2007 - 1:01pm
So ive been dating my girlfriend for a total of about 2 months off and on..and we are back together and dont see each other too much because of college. Anyways, one day she came to my dorm and we laid in bed.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sun, 12-23-2007 - 2:29pm

First of all, if you don't really know what you are going to do once you get to these places she is guiding you to, then read up at www.the-clitoris.com. Lots of useful ideas and guides for those new to all this. Don't worry too much, no-one expects you to be an expert, but but it doesn't hurt to be prepared and to have vague idea of what to do either :-) Speaking of prepared, you should be thinking about birth control. Who knows what might happen? And to have sex without birth control that you know how to use properly is a recipe for disaster.

Take charge? Yes, I think that you should be more assertive. While you find it hard to believe that a girl might act like this you shouldn't be. If she hadn't been guiding you, you'd still just be kissing. Many girls find out that many guys just won't do *anything* without obvious and blatant permission.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 12-23-2007 - 3:37pm

Welcome to the board, malethatneedsadvice.

I think the link that Westridge gave you is a great place to start. It does appear that she's initiating, hoping things will go further. The only thing I want to add is that you really can't plan what you'll do or what will happen. No two situations will play out exactly the same. However, you can prepare to take things further by reading the website link that you were given and by making sure you have condoms on hand and know how to use them properly.

Let us know how things go.