my hormones are taking over !!

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Registered: 04-25-2005
my hormones are taking over !!
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Sun, 06-12-2005 - 12:21pm
Lately Ive been so horny. When my bf and i were together I was like that too but ever since we have been broken up .. my hormones are going into overdrive. I dont think im sexually frustrated because my ex and i still have sex but when im alone all i can think of is sex even after me and him have done the deed, even after im satisfied and i go home i just want more. i think about it when im in school and i want to talk to people about sex but they would think im a feind, i think about it at work, and when i lay in bed before i fall asleep i crave for a hott guy to be there with me . and ive tried to satisfy myself with my own hand but that just doesnt do the trick, i cant get aroused by myself so i just give up. and when i lay there at night knowing im not getting any is makes me kinda mad .. well not mad but .. well you get the picture. is there any advice you could give me as too why im so damn horny all the time. i know im young and i want to experiment but its just i always want a sex or a hand down my pants ( and no im not slutty ). please help.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Sun, 06-12-2005 - 6:20pm
I don't think you are desiring sex, I think you're desiring the emotional contact with another person. Obviously you aren't getting that with your booty calls.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 06-12-2005 - 7:07pm

I agree with Tally, that's the first thing that I thought of reading your post.


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Registered: 04-25-2005
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 4:33pm
please dont say he is using me for sex because I know for a fact he isnt. And no im not having sex with him to "hold on". I know you dont know him and i know him personally, and honestly i dont think hes like other guys, and even his friends who are my good friends too say he would never use me. we are having sex because we want to, we still like eachother and sometimes i do ask myself " why the hell am i having sex with him if we arent together " but dont tell me none of you ladies havent ever had sex with your ex. he respects me and would never lie to me about why we get together. we clarified the situation and i just dont want people thinking differently about whats going on. comprende ?
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Registered: 05-27-2005
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 4:51pm
girl, you are in a major denial!
two of these people had given you GREAT advice and you're not willing to see their point of you, then why even come asking for advice?
I do agree w/ previous posts...you are craving emotional relationship, you want someone there to hold you to hug you to make love to you.... and not just bang you.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 5:19pm

I cannot speak for the others, but I can honestly say I have never had sex with an ex.


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Registered: 04-25-2005
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 5:37pm
ofcourse protection is the key. condoms and im on BC. and im sorry im not trying to say its not good advice and i understand you are trying to make a point and i know i should ask him what one of you said before " if im good enough in bed i dont understand why im not good enough for a relationship ". when the time comes ill ask him because its true and also he told me he isnt looking to hook up with other girls but yet wants to be single .. well i want a real answer as to why he wants to be single because if he doesnt want to hook up with other girls and he still likes me and shows affection what was the pint of breaking up ?. i honestly dont understand guys sometimes. i think im going to become a lesbian lol.
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Registered: 05-27-2005
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 6:54pm
well obviously he's just afraid of commitment, you're just wasting your energy and your nerves.
BTW i had never slept w/ my ex. (too much pride here)
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 7:40pm

I'm not sure what you don't understand about him.


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Registered: 04-01-2003
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 9:55pm

No comprende. I have never had ex-sex. If he doesn't want to be with me, he's not going to be with me just because he's horny, by my choice.

I refuse to be just an available call-girl.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 9:44am

Sorry Nympho....I've never had sex with an ex either. They're typically an EX because something went wrong or we grew apart, so why would I want to continue to have sex with them? Not to mention that doing so can keep you from moving on emotionally or complicate things when you do.

IF what you're experiencing is just a sexual urge only, then masturbating would take care of that need. But you're likely not being satisfied by that or sex with him because it's not giving you what you really need and want.....a relationship with a man who cares about you enough to be there all the time.




Edited 6/15/2005 12:09 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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