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my man doesn't go down
| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19pm |
I just started seeing this guy for the past two months and we've had sex about 6-7 times since dating. I've gone down on him everytime. However, he hasn't reciprocated. What am I to do? How do I let him know that I need some attention down there too without hurting his feelings or making it awkward?
Please help!!

IF he's never done it before, then offer to teach him to please you. If he doesn't like doing it, then you may have some problems.
You could say "I want to go first this time" the next time you have sex and see how he responds but I don't see any way around it, you're going to have to ask for what you want.
Good luck!
Edited 7/30/2004 9:09 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
Leticia
I personally favour the direct approach.
My wife was noticing that you were concerned about this feeling "awkward" whenever you do choose to go and discuss this with him. I agree with her that you don't have an option there, LOL! This is not going to be a topic that can become easy to discuss no matter how well you word things, so I'd let him realize that you feel its not easy to talk about as well as listen to for that matter, but you DO have needs and you DO trust him to let you talk to him about it. Keep yourself in the same boat as much as possible, that was usually the key for us anyway. Just two cents.
Another option is to have an educational video available, including the possibility of something Kama Sutra related. The video actually describes not only how to perform BOTH fellatio and cunnilingus (which again keeps you in the same boat, for it teaches you both instead of just one of you), but also explains in revealing detail how it feels for the partner when a certain technique is used as well. The right video also addresses "very common nervousness" about first starting or continuing more often or even becoming better no matter how experienced one thinks he/she is. This is an option that has helped US quite a bit, so if its too risky in your opinion, then don't try it; otherwise, it is an option to consider. Nobody is 100% certain what his reaction will be to either, but presenting the video after beginning a discussion with him about this is just an idea for you to ponder. Some couples have reported being offended by it whereas others were thankful for the idea cause they didn't realize how helpful it could've been till they tried. Your call. :)
Good luck to ya.
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