My man wants me to shave...
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My man wants me to shave...
| Wed, 12-22-2004 - 12:49pm |
My SO wants me to shave. He saw my "bush" the other day & said, "When are you going to shave that? It's a turn-off." I shave now -n- then, but I've gotten real slack lately w/ my hygiene. I told him, "It's my body & if I don't feel like shaving, I won't. I might trim it a little." He didn't say a daggone word after that. Not ALL women shave... in a matter of fact, most women don't b/c they don't feel they need to... and if their man ain't happy with it, they move on. A guy should respect your body. Am I right or am I right (being sarcastic)?

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Shaving has nothing to do with "hygiene". Hygiene is cleanliness, and pubic hair isn't dirty, if it's washed along with the rest of you.
Shaving is a fad, and a dumb one if you ask me. Trimming for a bikini is one thing.....shaving completely is weird. Women have pubic hair, so do men. Ask him if he's got a fantasy of being with a pre-pubescent girl? He may like it shaved, but he's not the one that has to do the work.
Tell him you'll shave when he waxes the hair on his bum and gooch.
I prefer trimmed myself, no one wants to feel stubble there!
I think you are both wrong...He asked the wrong way. It was crude and kind of a put down.
Maybe you would have felt differently had he asked nicely like "Hey baby, I love it when you shave down there, it makes you even more sexy than you are".
Matters of personal hygine are a personal opinion but I see nothing wrong and doing something such as shaving or even wering sexy undies.
Do what you want to do.
He was very blunt asking you but he possibly thought that he was being 'casual' and 'relaxed' about it. Whatever it was you now know that he has a preference. Like it or not, it seems to be pretty 'trendy' at the moment too and that may factor into his preference. Whether or not you cater to his preference is up to you. After-all, he'd probably grow a beard if he could regardless of what you wanted. Maybe he'd take your preference of bearded or unbearded on board but ultimately he'd do what he felt comfortable with.
It might turn out that he has a very strong preference for shaved. I, myself, have a very strong preference for trimmed and it does affect how interested in giving oral sex I am. If she's not trimmed I'll give less oral sex. But we've compromised on the issue and are both very comfortable with our positions on that and the compromise. Again, do what you feel comfortable with after considering his request, but don't just do it because he demanded it.
I agree that's _exactly_ how he should have asked for it.
I far, far prefer my women fully shaved -- no particular reason why that I can think of but there's no dark side to it or anything. So I have just asked the last few gfs and the answer was always basically, "well, my gosh, if it is a turn-on for you of course!" What's interesting, in my limited observation, is that once they have started shaving it, it's rare indeed that they would go back.
OTOH if any ever said, "well I would kinda prefer not to," that would be no big deal either. You have to totally respect and awe people and earn their trust and affection. Once you've got 'em, they are likely to do most anything that floats your boat if they reasonably can.
You're right -but why do you care what he thinks? In an earlier post, you stated that no one should have sex at all, then men wouldn't treat women like an object or a piece of meat. So if you're not going to have sex with him and you don't want him treating you like an object, why does it matter what he thinks about your pubes? Certainly, I don't take advice from anyone about my genitals other than my H or my doc (not that either of them give me grooming tips) if I'm not planning on having sex with them. And if I'm not intimate with them, they wouldn't be seeing my genitals either.
....just curious.
I'm never the type that would encourage a break-up or anything, but I gotta be honest here.
I think its time you ask him how he feels about you......YOU! In other words, is that lack of shaving such a turn-off to him that it would affect your relationship together? Ma'am, you REALLY need to lay that question on him.
Tomorrow and the blessings we currently have are promised to NO one. How's he gonna feel about you as you start to look different with age? I mean, where does this end?
Now listen, if this relationship is NOT sooo influenced by the bush or the this or the that, the good for you for having such a great guy after all. However, if he IS that turned off by something like that to the point that he feels he can't be as happy with you because of it, the my personal opinion is definitely to move on, as much as I really hate to say it.
Wish I could be more help, but as always, its simply up to you two alone. Good luck with that.
C h a r a c t e r
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Mr. Para
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I think Para's advice is good! This guy sounds quite nasty! My ex bf used to say to me he likes it shaved, but I hardly ever did, cos I dont like all the bother! Sometimes I trim, just becos I want it..Anyway, my bf always loved me/my body and was never turned off by my big big bush;) He always said I was sexy!
I think its a good idea to say to him: harse your a$$ cos I think its a turn off how it looks now:)
Just kidding ofcourse(actually I would do it)
Anyway, I wouldnt like it AT ALL if my bf talks to me like that! But then again, Im not the easiest person eh
Samie
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