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| Thu, 09-02-2004 - 11:04am |
Don't know if you remember me, but I'm the one who is obsessed with large size men and who is married to a man who isn't. I have been trying very hard to overcome my obsession for the sake of my husband's feelings, but it hasn't been easy. The facts are: I have a strong preference and there's nothing I(nor my husband) can do to satisfy it. That I have to live my life without ever actually seeing, feeling, tasting or touching a large penis. I get so turned on by a large ones - they are absolutely delicious in every aspect. I wish that I could make this preference vanish, because it would make life so much easier. I feel short(pun not intended)-changed. Just venting. **sigh**

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All I am doing is encouraging you to look at this with new eyes rather than then same mindset that created the problem.
Peace.
Scott.
PS - I'm sure you will figure this all out...as my Mom used to say: "You're equal to it!"
Great words you've received so far, but they can only help you if you're to apply them. The word in this case may not be as easy as it sounds because I'm convinced you are simply suffering a classic case of .
You know whats better to think and feel and appreciate, but you still have the urge and its too enjoyable to ignore. I VERY much agree with Leticia (yarn lover) and very strongly recommend counseling. YES I do remcommend that more often than anyone else probably does anyway, but unless you're able to help yourself out of this so that it doesn't hamper relations with such a great guy, then by all means, PLEASE get that help.
In fact, I'd also ask the counselor if it'd be a better idea to have him with you when you go. One thing I really do want you to focus on is to KEEP ON MAKING SURE that he KNOWS you appreciate him and love him for the man he is. Make sure he knows that you are so apologetic for this and that you're actually considering getting some help for it.
Hope things get better for you and I hope you make the right decision too. Come on back and let us know how things go. PLEASE remember, you are NOT the only one who goes through this and that others actually DID get the help they were needing...hopefully you can too.
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C h a r a c t e r
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Mr. Para
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Yea I kind of noticed this to after your first post in this subject. LIB you really got to read what Scott says.
But from the sound of it......its seems like this moved from becoming a preference to a addiction and now to a obsession for you. I think you should either leave him or really seek counseling on this.
Again Scott has a point there is more to this then what you are letting out you just got to search deep and find it
I agree with para, counseling would be a huge help to you I think. Essentially there are only three options that you have here: 1) Leave him for a man that has what you want (but don't be surprised if what you think you want is not your real desire). 2) Continue to be miserable and allow the victim inside you to torture you and him. 3) Love him for who he is and what he has. Choose to be happy (it is a choice you know.)
Pick one of the above three and find a way to accomplish the goal. You can do it with some help.
Much love to you both.
Scott.
Amen to that!
We have all had various things in our pasts that were GOOD, but we can no longer have them. We (most of us) DO accept that, and move on. My teen years were great, but I can never have them again. I choose to accept that, and also accept that THIS time in my life is also good. I don't worry about what I can't have. I don't even think about it.
As some others have mentioned, this is not your problem, it's only masking whatever is really bothering you, and I think the only way to fight your demons is to confront them in counselling.
If you're not happy about hurting your husband, then take responsiblilty and do something about it.
Amen to that!
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