Is my SIL "interested" in me?
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Is my SIL "interested" in me?
| Fri, 01-11-2008 - 1:38pm |
Okay, I posted this on the "in-laws" message board, but I figured this would be a good place to post about it too, so I can get some opinions, as it does involve sexy type stuff.
The gist of my post has to do with the way my wife's younger sister acts towards me. I really want to know what people think, particularly what women think. Please follow the link and post on that thread, actually, you could post here too if you'd like, I'll check both.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rldealingwit&msg=8210.1&ctx=0

Without having read your other post........I can tell you one very important thing.
Thanks for the reply.
I've never acted "inappropriately" towards her, nor do I plan to. Now that she's married the "games" have died down some. I probably won't ever say anything to her about them if for the main reason being that I love her like a sister and wouldn't want her to feel a lack of trust towards me. It would be awful if all of this was just "being flirty" and I said something about it and it puts a serious strain on our relationship. The primary reason for my post in the first place is it just can get so confusing. I'm not sure how I'm supposed to feel. I just had to get it off my chest and see what other people thought.
Edited 1/11/2008 2:05 pm ET by mi64
Well...
I personally think you may be reading to much into this. My wife has three sisters that run around our house in scanty bathing suits, and flirt with every husband in sight. Women are as competitive for attention as men are but that does not mean they want to go pick out curtains with you.
/me throws a bucket of cold reality on mi64...
Do you suspect that she is interested in you sexually?
If so I would counsel you to beat a hasty retreat.
Nothing will infuriate your wife like the thought that her sister is trying to get romantic with you. Sisters fight over each others boy friends from the time they are in grade school... Never, never get caught between two sisters, you will suffer much pain for it...
Keep your wife's sister at a distance and try not to think about it.
It's flattering and an ego booster to think other women are interested in you but this scenario is ripe for some serious pain...
Bottom line = run for your life imho...
Good Luck
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Welcome to the board, mi64.
I think that almost any 14yo would have a crush on her big sisters BF if he was any fun at all. Perhaps she hasn't grown out of that stage, or perhaps she's just very comfortable with who she is and has a lot of trust in you. Since she was so young when you were dating her sister, and you've been a part of the family for so long, she may well just feel relaxed and comfortable around her.
I don't think you need to compromise any of your relationship, but if she's doing things that make you feel uncomfortable -- or question what her true intentions are -- you can always divert the situation. Doing things like picking her panties up off the bathroom floor and handing them to her in front of your DW (or her DH) while saying, "I think you probably dropped these in the bathroom" might break her habit. On that topic, are you touching her panties at all when you find them laying around? If you are -- then that is clearly sending her a message, one that she may be testing.
If her actions continue to confuse you and/or make you feel uncomfortable, look for ways to avoid situations where things could be in question. If that doesn't work, then maybe mention to your wife that it makes you feel uncomfortable -- since she isn't a "little kid" anymore. She can talk to her sister from there.
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Thanks for the replies all.
Don't worry, as I've said before, I have no thoughts of doing anything inappropriate. Another big reason for me posting this is to just get it off my chest, because I feel guilty for actually enjoying the attention. (What red-blooded man wouldn't?) I'm very committed to my wife, and trust me, I don't what the "poop" storm that would come with fooling around, particularly with my wife's sister.