My wife is too shy. What can I do?

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Registered: 07-05-2007
My wife is too shy. What can I do?
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Thu, 07-12-2007 - 11:51am

My wife is too shy and prudish. She doesn't feel comfortable talking about sex. She won't flirt with me in any sexual way. She will wear sexy nightgowns or occasionally a thong but before I can walk into our room she turns off all the lights and hides under the covers. She then turns her back to me and expects me to start kissing her neck to get her turned on. She will not fondle me unless I ask her to or force her hand down there.

She's 31 and we've been married for 8 years. She's in great shape & I always tell her how beautiful & sexy she is. She's thought about pole dancing classes but says she's too shy.

Do you ladies have any ideas that I can use to thaw her out and get her to come out of her shell? It's all getting to be just too damn frustrating.

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Registered: 07-05-2007
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 9:55am

Thanks for your ideas lately. I wanted to let you know that she & I had an amazing evening last night. She surprised me by giving me one of the most incredible BJs I've ever had. I was on my back. She kept teasing me by licking and softly sucking... hand stroking me with a lot of saliva. Then she quickly plunged her throat down my full length and back up, real fast. Much like others have described when a guy thrusts during oral. It blew my mind! She would lick & tease some more... and then WHAM, stab me down her throat. She did this several times. The more excited I got, the more she got into it.

She said it felt so much better then just giving me a regular BJ.
The sex after that was just too cool for words.
Who would have thought that our sex life would benefit from having honest, open discussions about our feelings? ha,ha,ha

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 10:00am
Woohoo!! I am so happy for you Adam...



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Registered: 02-17-2007
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 6:10pm
That is wonderful! It is so great to hear that she was really enjoying it as well! Talking things over really does make a difference, huh? It sounds like you two had a very fun time and that's what it's all about. Congratulations!

 

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Thu, 07-26-2007 - 10:08am

Happy for you Adam! That's great. Communication is a wonderful tool isn't it hehe! Since I still believe that sex is 90% attitude it makes communicating about it estential in any relationship!

You sound like a great guy so I am glad everything is going so well for you!

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