naked in front boyfriend
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| Tue, 01-04-2005 - 5:34am |
Recently my boyfriend told me that he want to look me naked in front him.I'm not ready yet to show myself to him and told him to wait. But he insist to look me undressed. Later on after a long arguement finally we came to a solution. The solution is I will let him see myself wearing bra and underwear.
When I open my shirt and pants, he look at me with my bra and panties.Later on he get aroused and open all his dress and masturbate in front me and asked me to open my bra and panties. I have told him that we came to a solution that I will not be naked in front of him but he don't care. Then he opened my bra and panties himself without my permission and look at me naked and continue to masturbate in front me.
I don't understand why he is so interested to look me naked. I don't want to lost our relationship and on the same time I do not how to avoid this in future. If I am ready to show myself then I don't mind about this. Please help me.

What he's doing is not OK. But before we give you any advice, can I ask a few questions?
How old are you and your boyfriend? How long have you been dating? Are the two of you having any type of sexual contact? It also appears that English is your second language...are there any cultural issues regarding sex and relationships that we should be aware of?
Your body is YOUR body.
He cannot take your clothes off unless you allow him to do that. If he started doing it, and you did not want that to happen, you should have left right away.
YOU thought you had a compromise, but he did what he wanted to, and he could not do that unless you allowed him to.
Maybe this is not the right boyfriend for you, if he does not respect your wishes. If he does not respect your wishes, then it is NOT a very good relationship. Maybe it should end. Then you can find a boyfriend that will respect you, and respect your wishes.
That's just not right. Later on in your relationship maybe you will perhaps show off a little and do something like this. I have had a couple of gfs who hammed it up a little (remember Gloria in The Sopranos? ... kinda like that, nothing too extreme) and quite absently mindedly I would pull out my penis and masturbate a bit before she comes over and grabs it. But there has to be laughter, fun and tons of good vibes to it all around.
Things like this can't be demanded, they must be freely given if at all.
It was not rape, rape is forced penetration of any bodily orifice (vaginally, anally, or orally) or forced oral sex.
sitra,
wether you have cultural taboos or not, the total behaviour of him is unacceptable and disgusting. I would say DUMP HIM.
Cheers,
Kirk.