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Registered: 08-02-2004
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Thu, 02-01-2007 - 1:33am

Last weekend, my wife and I were having sex and I was playing with her vagina and she was stroking me. I was on my back facing her vagina and fairly close to it. She was on her back but she just laid on her back and had her eyes closed while she was stroking me. She does the same thing when we have intercourse, keeps her eyes shut and lays on her back. She might once in a while open her eyes but most of the time her eyes are shut. My eyes are almost always open because i like to see her body while we have sex, it turns me on.

I've had sex with other women and it seems like most of them had their eyes open. Can you women tell me what you think of this? Is this normal? I'm feeling a little weird about it sometimes.

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Registered: 01-27-2007
In reply to: manunit
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 4:51am

Do you have an open line of communication with your wife? Seems like this is something you could speak with her about.

Just because you're married doesn't mean she's going to totally open up and be everything you want in the bedroom. I'm not critisizing, I'm just saying if you speak with her and tell her what you like and try to get her to play along slowly, without pressuring her, you might see good results and she might try and do things that please you!

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: manunit
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 7:48am

There is no normal, eyes open, eyes shut, whatever someone does is normal for her/him.


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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: manunit
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 10:22am

There's no such thing as "normal" when it comes to sex! For her, it's "normal". For others, maybe it's not so normal. It's also not "weird" for a woman to keep her eyes shut during sex. Despite your past experience, it's not unusual for a woman to close her eyes to simply concentrate on what she's feeling.

Men are much more "visual" creatures (in general) and they like to see what's going on. Women, on the other hand are more into "feelings" and closing one's eyes makes that easier. I'll bet there are times when her eyes are open, too.....you just don't notice it.

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Registered: 08-02-2004
In reply to: manunit
Fri, 02-02-2007 - 1:14am
thanks for your comments. I will talk to her. the problem for me sometimes is that when i try to talk to her about sex, she clams up. She is a bit shy about it I think. I think she may find that the eyes close thing i normal for her. I like to look and see everything. I've noticed when she is showering alone, she closes her eyes.