Need advice, can anyone help me plz???
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Need advice, can anyone help me plz???
| Sun, 08-15-2004 - 6:36am |
Hi all,
Ive never been in here before. Im wanting some advice. I lost my virginity last night and we started having sex without a condom, we only did it for a few mins before using a condom. Is there any chance i could get pregnant from that? Also, i feel so hurt, i didnt want to lose my virginity how i did, we were in a hotel room and whilst havin sex he told me he loved me, after the sex he got his stuff and left me on my own, i was so unhappy, i felt horrible. Can anyone give me advice please. What should i do now??
Claire

2-You might consider going to the emergency room and getting the morning after pill. The pill is taken within 72 hours of unprotected intercourse.
3-STD's may be a concern. You may wanted to get screened.
Good luck and keep us posted.
Mac
I would get to an ER or a doctor, get the morning after pill but also as Mac suggested, get tested for STD's.
I'm sorry that you were used by this man, but this needs to be a lesson for you. A man can and will say anything to get sex from a woman. If you don't intend to have sex with a man, don't go to a hotel room with him, or to his apartment, or anywhere else alone with him. Do not allow a man near you unless he's wearing a condom, because the pre-ejaculate contains sperm and diseases (if he has any).
Also, don't let this experience make you think less of yourself, or mistrust all men. They aren't ALL dogs like this guy, and you are young and inexperienced, so you made the mistake of trusting this man. We all make mistakes, and we need to learn from them. Good luck, go out NOW and get those pills.
I simply cannot re-word any better the responses you've received so far. I just wanted to add this one interesting thought that my wife helped me with.
Many women develop the emotional attachment to guys like this EVEN IF they realize that the guy may not be worth it. If you choose to keep your feelings for him, then thats your choice. As was already said though, angel, there really ARE other guys out there who would NEVER treat you like this.
Lesson learned now? No protection, no selection. You wait and get only when YOU want, no matter how some guy does feel about you and no matter how perfect the setting is and no matter how long or involved your relationship is, YOU are the boss and if the guy doesn't accept that and thinks negatively of you, you've GOT to ditch 'em, Claire. Just my personal opinion and that certainly comes from Mrs. Para too.
Get yourself taken care of, come on back here and let us know how you're doin'. DON'T leave US here worrying about you, get back here and give us the thumbs up! ;)
C h a r a c t e r
above all else
Mr. Para
C H A R A C T E R