Need avdice. what do you think?

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Registered: 10-28-2006
Need avdice. what do you think?
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Wed, 08-15-2007 - 6:02pm


Having some serious problems.
I'm posting this here because many of you give great advice.
Plus this is my favorite board! lol

Ok so here it goes. Dh has become not just a little obsessed he's become
so obsessed i just want to run! He gets mad at me quite often if i spend
to much time with friends or family! He says he can't stand for me to leave
the room. He is extremely jealous of every body around me. It use to not
be so bad but now it's gotten to be to much he's obsessed with checking every
thing i do online. It upsets him if i think a guy is hot! Now come on i'm not
blind or dead and nether is he! There are many beautiful people out there!
So what if i look! it's not like i say oh he's hot! He's also very insecure
i'm sure you could assume that. He's always asking me do you love me? how much?
are you sure i'm the one you wanna be with? All this crap! It's driving me nuts!
I've told him he's smothering me and he's scaring me. I've been stocked and obsessed
over 2 times! I don't need nor want this from him. Obsession is not love it's exactly what
it is obsession! Never a good thing in my opinion. Right? I don't want to be obsessed
over him it would drive me crazy it's like not functioning. I just feel like I'm under
the radar all the time now. It's not fair i don't do this to him.. I just want to be loved
not obsessed over. I feel like i have to watch every thing i do! I have talked to him about it. That didn't work so I screamed at him! That didn't work so now I'm leaving!
I told him I'm not asking i gotta go! We need to take a break before it's over for good.
Now i got him listening alittle. What would you do? What do you think? I'm am so happy to be leaving is that a bad thing? Am i wrong to feel this way? I'm trying really really hard to make this work. I'm at the end of my rope and i could use some advice!

Thanks so much.
Kareese

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Registered: 10-28-2006
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 1:55pm

Yes you can certently email it to me.
That would be great. Thanks

Kareese

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Registered: 10-28-2006
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 1:58pm

Honestly i've only gotten him to see a Dr twice. That did not go well.

Kareese

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Registered: 08-16-2007
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 11:57pm
Leave and don't go back. This leopard can hide his spots for a time, but he willo never change his spots
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Registered: 08-06-2007
Fri, 08-17-2007 - 10:25am
wow. first of all let me tell you congradulations for having some bomb as kitty kat. for him to act like that you no you are doing something very extraudinary. lol, but anyways i would suggest for you to leave. and if you feel that satisfied and happy to leave him then your doing something right. who wants to be with someone thats crazy "in love" i guess you dont see what happends to those women on lifetime who are in an obessessive relationships some of them do not make it out. its better to leave him now before he gets worst and starts controlling and and putting gps' on your things. but if you happen to get back with him unfortunetly turn him off start doing things that he dosent like force him to break up with you so he will leave you alone.
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Registered: 10-28-2006
Fri, 08-17-2007 - 12:07pm

LoL nope don't watch life time no cable!
Yesterday he just wouldn't shut up!
That was the first time i felt loony!
I'm leaving tomorrow!! Even if he doesn't
need a break. I DO! He hasn't said another
word about it! yay! We'll see how long that
lasts I would love it if it would stay that way..
I made it as clear as possible last night for the
last time, that if this jealousy and insecurity and
all that stuff doesn't stop then i will leave him..
I *think* he finally gets it now! Hope so. Cause i am
nothing like that.. Sometimes i wonder how i ended up
with some one so opposite of me when it comes to these
things. I guess sometimes it takes getting married to see
the real person come out.

Thanks
Kareese

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 08-17-2007 - 12:18pm

Hi Kareese,

I've been following this thread, and really don't know what to say. I certainly sense a lot of frustration in your postings, and I know you have posted about different problems in the past.

I can't figure out if you're leaving for a short break, or leaving for good from what you've written. Whatever you have decided, I wish you luck. I hope you keep us updated on your situation. You've become quite a part of this community, and I know several of us would like to know that you're doing okay.

You haven't mentioned anything about the kids. Are they going with you?



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Registered: 08-06-2007
Fri, 08-17-2007 - 2:10pm
okay hopefully either he changes or he leaves you alone, good luck on all that you do but honestly you should watch movies that deal with obsession
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Registered: 10-28-2006
Fri, 08-17-2007 - 3:59pm

Hi Misty,

Yes of course I'm taking the children! Couldn't imagine it any other way!
I noticed I didn't put that in there oops! Anyways Not quiet sure how long
I'm staying that just depends on how things go.. I just need to clear my
mind make sure this is what i really want. I'm not one for giving up.
Even though I want to. I just can't believe we didn't catch this sooner.
Or why didn't i see it.. Yes you sense right tons of frustration..
I will certainly keep you posted. To all that replied.. Thanks for the support and advice.
I love being a part of this community. Smile.

Kareese

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 08-17-2007 - 7:08pm

Hi kareese2007,


::Dh has become not just a little obsessed he's become


Carrie

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 08-17-2007 - 9:18pm

Thanks for stopping by the board Carrie. I see you also have some boards that might be helpful to Kareese.

I never really noticed that your boards deal with opposite ends of the spectrum.



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