Need help about being confident...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Need help about being confident...
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Sat, 07-17-2004 - 4:28pm
If any of you have seen 'Chasing Amy' you probably understand my situation. When I met my girlfriend it seemed as if she was extremely attracted to me with incredibly large penises (ex. 9-12 inches). And her previous two boyfriends were also extremely large. Knowing this at first didn't bother me in the least because I was pretty much always confident with what I had. "I'm average", that's how I always viewed it. But when it seemed like whenever she mention one of her ex's the first thing I would learn about him is how large his penis was. And I must also include that she is much more sexually experienced than I am...me being a virgin...and her being very openly bisexual. Now that we've actually fooled around and she has seen my penis...she wears that it's great and that she is happy with it, when previously in conversation (before she knew how large I was) she stated that a man of my size would be inadaquate and would be unable to please. I am having a hard time believing her when she says she is satisfied with it because I feel like she is just saying that to make me feel better. We haven't slept together yet and I'm still a virgin, but now I am even more hestitant because I feel like I can't please her.

I remember one of the things she used to say was, "I like big penises. You can't fault me for that and it's not going to change."

Now, that's true I can't fault her for having a preference, but is it weird for me to be a little insecure since I have been dating her?

Anyway, any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-31-2004 - 7:42pm
Well, she certainly can't speak for ME or any other woman! She can't possibly know what's important to me! I could care less about the size of a man's penis, particularly if I'm in love with him.

I think you need to remember that she can only speak for herself and then decide if you can deal with her honesty about this. At least now, you know that size IS important to her so it's up to you to decide if you can overcome the insecurity this has dredged up. Is it worth it or not?

Believe me though, she's absolutely wrong to make such a statement, as your sister already verified for you.

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