Need help asap-maturbation

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Need help asap-maturbation
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Mon, 06-13-2005 - 10:45am
I was just wondering if anyone else had this same problem. My fiance is thinking of leaving me because of it. He catches me masturbating at night when he isn't there when he walks in or when we're in bed and he's asleep. I honestly don't know that I am even doing it. I don't think of anything either. The only way I know is because my fingers are wet and they smell like down there. I even try to think about not doing it and then end up doing it. He says he has grabbed my hand and i just pull it away from him. The whole time I think I am asleep but wake up when he is yelling at me. Do I have a complex and what do I need to do? The sex we have is great better than anyone but he is hurt and I don't know what to do and He is thinking of leaving. Please help.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-13-2005 - 3:24pm

Honey, if your guy is using this silliness as an excuse to get upset with you and avoid sex, then you must wonder if this is a lame attempt to break off the engagement. MOST men, including my DH, would find seeing their partner masturbating in her sleep to be HIGHLY arousing, not a turnoff all!

I think you have to look at what might be motivating him to react this way. IF he IS a very controlling, jealous and insecure man, then do you REALLY want to marry this person?

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Mon, 06-13-2005 - 3:33pm

You can reassure him, but once that is done there is nothing that you can do about this. His problem is his perception, not anything that you have done. This is a problem that you can't "fix" because essentially you have nothing to do with it.

Peace.
Scott.

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Mon, 06-13-2005 - 3:35pm

This is caused by being human and nothing more. This is like telling him not to scratch his balls in his sleep.

Zolman, you need to understand THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. Trying to fix this will drive you insane.

Peace.
Scott.

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Mon, 06-13-2005 - 4:03pm
thank you all. I have a lot to think about. But I guess if you love something and let it go and if it comes back it is true.

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