Need help on feeling less shy...

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Registered: 10-03-2004
Need help on feeling less shy...
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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 8:07pm
Hi everyone, I thought I'd come back because you gave me such wonderful advice before.

Slowly, but surely, I'm opening up a lot more with my bf. What I didn't like before, I truly enjoy now. But there are still some things I am totally confused and shy about, and I'm hoping you can help. I'm sooo sorry if I'm giving you TMI, but I really want to be clear so I can get a good answer.

Let's just say we are laying in bed together. He touches me down there. What am I supposed to do? I've already explained to him that he was being far too rough before, and I didn't like it. The funny thing is, I was thinking about this on the way home from work, and thinking about him touching me, and me telling him to do it softly, and I actually got turned on thinking about him doing that to me, okay, TMI, see here I go. Anyways, am I supposed to let him keep on doing it, do I let him give me an orgasm (he's so hard set on giving me one, no pun intended).

I guess it all comes down to I am so SHY when it comes to sex stuff. I'd rather just have sex so we are both enjoying ourselves than have me enjoy myself and have him watch. I just feel embarrassed, shy, confused, and so on.

Do you have any suggestions for me? Are there any good books out there I can read that will help me deal with my sexual shyness? It's not that I have zero sex drive, I'm just shy, I'm still a virgin, haven't been with many guys, and basically have zero experience in the sack.

Thanks!

Hugs, Vicky

 

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 8:29pm

Glad you came back.


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Registered: 01-11-2004
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 10:10pm

Hi snowy_nites:

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 10:52pm
Are you ready to become sexually active? Because that would explain your shyness if you aren't.

But I say, two hands are better than one, aren't they? Since you're too shy to "enjoy myself and have him watch" why not lend him a hand and allow him some fun, too? That way, you'll be less self conscious.