Need Help- I couldn't control myself?

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Registered: 03-22-2008
Need Help- I couldn't control myself?
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Wed, 07-16-2008 - 10:30pm
Um... I was in here before and talked about having an affair with my boss and we've been okay for a long time- we haven't had sex in like four months or longer- we've been doing very well.
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Registered: 05-04-2008
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 10:00am

I am really happy for you that you have taken control of your life and have decided to leave the negativity behind.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2008
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 8:04pm
I think for a lot of people, especially myself- I said it because I had to admit what I did- saying it out loud felt freeing
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Registered: 08-01-2006
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 9:01pm

I am so sorry. I totally missed the part about you saying this to the support group. I read it as you told these other guys that you had sex with. Please forgive me.


I am glad that you are in counseling and are happy with it.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2008
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 9:11pm
Well- I did it.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 9:52pm

I think it was important for you to make a clean break. What would have been nice would have been for him to respect that in the first place, but he didn't. Hopefully no one saw you, or heard your fight -- that wouldn't solve anything for either of you.

If nothing else, he knows you are serious about moving on and doing what is right.

Good luck with your new job -- keep us posted on how you're doing.















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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2008
Sat, 07-26-2008 - 1:23am

I don't think anyone did see or hear us because those conference rooms are pretty thick and unless the door is wide open you really can't hear anything.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sat, 07-26-2008 - 1:32am
Wow. The scene in the conference room must have been tense and awful. But I'm glad to hear that you've done it and walked away from it. He now knows that you've made your choice and are serious about it. I don't know what else he could have expect in the end - he is still a married man with a wife and children. He's the bigger fool in the end for not accepting that the situation was going to end one day, and then handling it so badly when it did. If he's so distraught about the whole you-leaving thing and showing such little regard for his wife and family, why doesn't he leave his family to be with you? He has no right to be angry at you. No, you've done the best thing that you could have under the circumstances.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2008
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 7:24pm
Some news to tell- today was my first day on the new job.
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Registered: 08-01-2006
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 8:31pm

I am glad you had a good first day on the job.


As for the ex-boss... That's a tough call. My first instinct is to say do not call him. It's too soon. He really should be talking to his wife about what he's going through and feeling.



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Registered: 10-18-2001
Tue, 07-29-2008 - 5:09am

Good news about the new job.


My instincts say don't call him.