need help with oral

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Registered: 07-03-2003
need help with oral
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Thu, 07-22-2004 - 12:08am
I never thought I had a problem with oral sex; have actually been told I did it quite well in the past. But, my boyfriend doesn't feel the same. He told me in the beginning of our relationship (6 months ago) how he preferred it to be performed on him. I tried my best...had never used that particular technique before. I didn't think it was going that bad, but he has never came when I perform it. To make matters worse, I know that his ex-girlfriend did it quite to his liking...and since he knows I know this, I think he feels very uncomfortable when I want to "practice", even though he says that practice is all we need to cure this problem. He probably feels obligated to get off, and I understand this. But now what do we do? We got in a horrible fight about this last weekend...well, we were both drunk, so that didn't help. I guess I was prying into oral sex with his ex (I don't remember)---he said that he felt "backed against a wall", and he went off and said that his ex used to do it in the truck and he'd come in her mouth, and that I SUCK! He later said I didn't suck, that he was just mad and looking for the meanest thing to say at the time, but I'm worried about this. I read in a book called What Do Men Want that if you are not giving your man good oral sex, he will CONTINUOUSLY think about the last person/time he got it. He claims this isn't so and didn't have oral sex from his ex-wife for 6 years....but I am tending to believe the book. And I don't want him to always think of his ex as the blow job goddess.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: pam9
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 1:27am
Don't waste too much time feeling badly about this one, Pam. Doesn't sound like much of a loss to me. Hang in there!
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Registered: 07-16-2004
In reply to: pam9
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 10:45am
OMG, this guy Im sorry to say is a complete moron. It is his problem. Im sorry but no woman can be so bad not to make me cum. She can naw on it or something and I would still cum, lol. But as far as him, he has some deep shaded problems.

You my dear are a saint, and are wonderful, to put forth the effort just to please him, to do things just as he wants it just to gratify him, where are you at again, and are you available, lol.

The idea that he doesnt want you to practice, HELLO! I mean what is with that. I tell you what, if you need to practice on someone Im always free, lol

Anyhow to the point. I think you need to move on, and stop letting him treat you like a second fiddle.

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Registered: 07-03-2003
In reply to: pam9
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:54pm
Thanks for your reply...made me feel good for a moment in a time when I am devastated that he has broken it off with me. These sexual problems, his idealizing his ex, his shady, promiscuous past before me, and his constant drinking had me very insecure and untrusting from the beginning. But when we were together, it was intoxicating (not the sex, just his personality). I really felt like we were soulmates. But now he doesn't want to deal with the "drama" of my insecurities, is a total dick to me when I try to talk to him, and has left me hanging with "we'll see when I get home" and "just leave it be for now". I would rather have him tell me to just f*ck off instead of stringing me along.

How could I fall in love with somebody that most other people can see is a bad catch??

Pam

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