Need help!! Question on how to give bj

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Registered: 05-22-2004
Need help!! Question on how to give bj
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Thu, 06-10-2004 - 4:45pm
Hey everyone:

Recently my bf has asked if I would go down on him. I'm a virgin,so right now the only thing I've done is give him a hj. He was the first guy i ever did that with. I told him I didnt know,that it freaked me out. He said he doesnt want me to do anything to make me feel uncomfortable or pressured. He was the first guy that ever went down on me. I feel like such a dork,cause I dont know that much. He's very patient w/me,but gets frustrated sometimes. I didnt even know how to give him a hj,he showed me and then i got him off. So I'd like to know how or have some tips on how to give him oral,when i'm ready to. Could u share what it was like for u when u first gave a guy a bj? It'll put my mind at ease,knowing I'm not the only one whos gone through this before! And should we use a condom? Please I need advice!!!

precious042398

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 4:49pm
Your little question almost got lost down here! You are newly separated? So you were married? If so, then how did you give your ex-husband a BJ? How old are you also? Unless you're really young, you would know at least a little about giving a BJ.

Not to be mean or anything - but just kneel down, stroke it, put it in your mouth and suck and lick. Don't worry about technique - he'll be dumbstruck just having it inside your mouth, believe me.

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 12:13pm
Tiana is right. He will be happy just to be inside your mouth. There really is no tried and true method. It is all about learning what each new guy likes. And being able to learn, adjust, and take control once your comfortable. It is all a new learning experience, and everytime you go to have sex, or give a BJ, if you look at it as a new and exciting experience, it is all the better in the long run. Most importantly though, you should do your best to seem excited about doing it, and excited about giving him that pleasure. Otherwise, there is very little thrill in the whole thing.
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Registered: 01-08-2003
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 7:07pm
"I could tolerate him climaxing in my mouth if I were to be in the position you stated. I would have more control over his, ahem, penis."

I'm with you here. I want to be in control of the BJ. I love them and enjoy swallowing. But I want to be the one in control. I'll move my mouth and take his penis the way I want. If he wants to be in control, then we need to do some other sex act. My husband hasn't ever held my face or head or even moved his penis in and out of my mouth. I control all the actions except, of course, his orgasm, lol. This is the way I like it and will not do it otherwise. We each have our own preferences and hopefully that is sufficient to satisfy our partner.

Robin

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 7:52pm
My hubby is usually at the controls with most of our intimacy.

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