Need input about penises

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Need input about penises
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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 10:08am

A couple of questions about penises...

1. Do y'all think that a penis has to be LONG to be considered BIG? It seems that most people equate a BIG penis with a LONG penis and I just wanted to know who agrees with that? Is a penis ever considered BIG if it is short, but thick?

2. In your opinion, at what LENGTH (in inches) would YOU consider a penis to be small, average, big and huge? If you're not good at estimating size then please grab a ruler.

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Registered: 12-20-2004
Tue, 05-02-2006 - 1:37pm
I think that where love is involved, requirements become just preferences.In a perfect world I would like a woman who has a toned athletic body, but my wife doesnt fit that mold. She isnt over weight, but she doesnt have an athletic looking body. My ex wife, on the other hand, had a very athletic toned body. Her body wasn`t enough to make up for other flaws that ruined the marriage. I love my wife and her body because it is HER body, even if it doesnt fit my "ideal" image. I think boobs would be no different, if they were hers it wouldnt matter...I think women can make the same statement about penises, but where men get insecure about the size thing, is the penis(to some women) is DIRECTLY related to sexual satisfaction for a woman, where breasts , to a man are nothing but decoration..lol. There lies the difference.(function vs. aesthetics)
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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 1:53pm

"DIRECTLY related to sexual satisfaction for a woman, where breasts , to a man are nothing but decoration..lol. There lies the difference.(function vs. aesthetics)"

I understand your point, Hump, but you yourself said that huge boobs "turn you off" so it would follow that, it would make them a sexual "function." Also, breasts are very sexual to many men. They are functional. They need to touch them, suck them, screw them, as well as look at them(men are visual, right?). Many men are breast-men...so in that case, they are very functional.

The biggest difference though, is that a man can reject a woman immediately based on the size of her breasts without ever getting to know her; nevermind ever get to the "love" part--whereas a woman can't.

Don't fool yourself, women have as much reason to be insecure about their breast-size as men do about their penis size. It surprises me that some men don't see this, particuarly since they do have their own insecurities. Empathy....




Edited 5/2/2006 2:08 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 2:24pm
rain, I know all about womens breast insecurities, my ex wanted and had breast implants. although I didnt think it was necessary, I only supported her.I am a very empathic man, I can put myself in anothers shoes. I feel for anyone who has body insecurities...
Yes there are breast men, but ,unless he is getting titty sex, they are still only a decoration, which could, I suppose lend itself to his turn on or off mentally. Knowing as many men as I do, being involved in locker room banter for many years, I understand the fetish some men have torwards large breasts.I would say this, most men do not desre HUGE breasts, just as most women do not have a fetish for HUGE penises.
You see preception is reallity in a persons mind...If a guy thinks his penis isnt big enough to help cause pleasure for a woman he becomes insecure about it. I`m sure women have similar insecutities about breast size, but for slightly different reasons.
A womans thought process isnt one where she thinks," he wont cum because I have small breasts", is it? (hell, maybe it is) But that is EXACTLY what goes through a mans mind if he thinks he is not so much "well' endowed.
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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 3:13pm
I understand what you mean about conversations changing directions, but this is ridiculous! There are 34 posts thus far and only 3 have answered the original question! The other 30 posts have been a friggin' conversation between 2 people. Shouldn't they just IM each other or better yet, start their own thread where they can talk all they want and not hijack another thread? I know this happens on other boards, but it still doesn't change the fact that it is REALLY annoying!
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Registered: 11-26-2004
Tue, 05-02-2006 - 3:25pm

Well...as I said, the difference is that HE will pleasure her....as in HIS PERSON, no matter what the size of his penis. She will(most likely) have come to care about HIM well before she even sees his penis--so in essence, any size will do(except for the size-queens). Whereas, many women are judged by the size of their breasts(too small, too large, not large enough) even before a man approaches.

...and let's not forget America's obsession with breasts. Women/teenagers are not blind--breasts are definitely a large/prominent sexual object in our society; and it seems the "penis" is catching up. I suppose with porn being so accessible in the home now(where more women(particuarly young women) feel more comfortable viewing it(and it's more acceptable for women to view it anyhow), women/teens are seeing not only bigger penises, but different shapes and sizes and these are forming some of their preferences/requirements).

Whereas in the old days, the most porn a young woman might see was Playboy or Penthouse(no males depicted), and maybe even a Playgirl(however, the men were all flaccid)....so, there really wasn't anything to "desire" or to aid in forming any "fetishes," so....ignorance is bliss. ;-)

I can see though, how a man might be more insecure than a woman if they "got to know each other" before they had sex, because he'd wonder if she's really happy with his penis. But it's still possible that a man might be disappointed with a woman's breasts once they get naked because they may not be the "shape" he likes or "firm" enough to turn him on(or worse, off)....so it's still an issue nonetheless.

"A womans thought process isnt one where she thinks," he wont cum because I have small breasts", is it? (hell, maybe it is) But that is EXACTLY what goes through a mans mind if he thinks he is not so much "well' endowed."

Why would it be any different for a woman? Ask any man what role breasts play in his sex life....and you'll have your answer--they are important in our culture as evidenced by statistics: It's the number one(or one of the top five) procedures(as did your ex) being done today....it speaks volumes about their "prominence".

There's no difference: breasts; penises....the question is the same: "Am I good enough?"




Edited 5/2/2006 3:33 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 3:44pm
The media wants us to think that all men are breast men, not so, most men I know are leg or ass men, me included.There was a pcychological study that was done about men and their "preferences" of womens body parts.Funny, knowing the men that I do, I kind of agree with the findings. It said that boob guys tended to be more immature when it came to women and sex, while ass and leg men tended to be more realistic and mature about women.
Honestly That seems to be fairly accruate... The guys in the locker room who were always boasting, and going on about women and sex were always talking about big breasts etc.. The other more reserved guys, when asked seemed to like the other parts more.
I`m sure you are right about women and porn...They see these large guys and must be wondering if they are missing something. Only experience will show them what it is that they like, dislike, can make due with, and what is totally unacceptable.(not talking just about size here)
The whole point here is to each their own...
If someone said I had a choice of two incredible women, one had a models figure and one had a toned athletic body with smaller breats, Id take the latter. There is someone for everyone, love is what matters, size is just in the details.
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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 4:07pm

....legs and ass? Same thing....you guys still get to "see" and pick and choose before you approach! ;-) Not fair!!

But anyhow, it seems that women are encouraged to be "flexible" and "work" with whatever God has given men(sexually), but men, not so much so with women--it seems more acceptable for them to have definite requirements with respect to sexual parts.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 4:10pm
but you do get to try before you buy..lol
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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 4:14pm

Here's a word of advice: If you look at the board in "outline" view, you can see a tree structure. Our whole conversation is branched off from the main string(topic). You can bypass it altogether. When a new person comes to answer the original thread, it will land under the main branch--that or you can a)put the posters who offend you on ignore; or b)just ignore us, period.

In any event, the topic was about penis size....the sub-convos were about penis/breast size and the importance of them. I think that the OP might find the discussion to be informative and relative to his/her question....and everyone, including the many lurkers might learn something about how each sex "sees" the same thing differently and how we come to our conclusions--something we rarely get to discuss in real-life. Love the internet, don't you?




Edited 5/2/2006 4:22 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 4:21pm
....if it's a "One-Day Extravaganza Sale," yes, that may be so.....but in most cases, it's a "Final-Sale--No Returns." tee hee
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )

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