~need it!~

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~need it!~
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Fri, 08-12-2005 - 2:48pm

yeah I figured that title might draw a few in! :p

Okay so I'm 29 and not quite 30 but I really feel like my libido is getting stronger. I've heard we (women) hit our sexual peak in our 30s and I think it's coming on! *gulp*

2 years ago I was in a very sexually fulfilling relationship but it ended over a year ago. I have a FWB situation but he's more of a friend in my eyes than benefit! :p He'd totally step up to the plate but I'm not craving him!

It seems I'm craving what I can't have (so to speak) and it's annoying the daylights out of me! :(

Don't even bother suggesting the rabbit and such - been there, done that - want a living breathing MAN! But not quite to the place that girl on "hooking up" is at! :p

Thoughts, comments, suggestions?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: imanewposter
Fri, 08-12-2005 - 3:07pm

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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: imanewposter
Fri, 08-12-2005 - 3:12pm

I don't know what to tell you about how to find that man.....that's something we all have to work out for ourselves.

However, I CAN tell you that you don't need to worry about that mythological "peak".....there is no "peak". If you enjoy sex, you'll enjoy it forever, as long as you have the right attitude (and the right partner, even if only temporary) and of course, good health, both mentally and physically. I've got 40 years on you, and I haven't "peaked" yet, and hope I never do! It's better now than when I was 40 & 50!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: imanewposter
Fri, 08-12-2005 - 3:35pm

Keep looking, you'll find the right guy. And don't lower your standards or settle for loveless sex for sex's sake, as in an FWB, you don't have to.

Live your life, be open to new prospects but don't rule anyone out just because he may not fit the picture you have in your mind. You might be surprised.

And don't be concerned with 'A' peak, no, we have MANY peaks throughout our lives, not just one. I'm in my 40's now and I'm presently in another "peak." I've experienced many peaks and valleys in my years and from what I hear from others, that's the norm.

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Registered: 06-25-2005
In reply to: imanewposter
Fri, 08-12-2005 - 10:04pm

I have to agree w/our fellow posters on the Age thing..I too have heard of the "Dirty thirties"...am actually 33...I know my sex drive has always been high but when I was younger my mind was elswhere, thoughts racing..am I doing this right, do I look sexy..should I say something..am I too loud????

I think the 'Dirty' rumour started because as we get wiser (not older)we become comfortable in our skin. Since turning the big 3-0 I just don't care and I know what I like!!! and I am not afraid to say it anymore..as my friend says "I need a guy who knows how to take direction" hahaha

I also agree that while my pal 'buzzy' always knows how to brighten my day he is not really satisfying...but the thought of a one niter is terrifying(i know safe sex...but still)
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