Need Sex Drive Help

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Registered: 07-05-2004
Need Sex Drive Help
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Wed, 08-15-2007 - 11:05pm

Hello, I used to post here a long time back, though it has been a few years...


Basically, a year ago I left my husband of three years. At the time that I left we had not had a good sex life for at least a year. But throughout our dating and marriage, I had a very high sex drive. Now, a year later, I have a boyfriend that I love very much, and he is absolutely amazing in bed...I mean, I never knew what I had been missing! The problem is, ever since we started seeing each other, I have not had much of a sex drive at all. I know that he is incredibly attractive and I love his body, but I rarely get all hot and bothered when I am around him or when I think about him. We have sex often, but I am usually not as interested as I want to be. I want to get my sex drive back, especially now that I can take advantage of it and have some real fun, but I don't know why it seems to have disappeared. Any suggestions on how I might be able to get it back?


Thanks again.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 12:28am
Are you on Birth Conrtol pills? if so that may be your problem, happened to me.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 9:01am

Welcome back to the board tindomerel.

As Kendenrayne said, birth control can cause problems with your libido. I don't know your age, but menopause (at all its' stages) can also have a major impact on your drive, as can depression, certain medications, stress etc.

Usually in a new relationship, libido's run high. Since yours isn't I would recommend talking with your doctor to see if you can figure out a reason why you might not have as high of a libido as you think you should (or would like to).

Here are a couple of articles that might get you started in the right direction too.

Revive Your Sex Drive: How to Handle 10 Top Libido Killers
Take your passion off the back burner
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/sxarousal/0,,9bp87snw,00.html?ice=iv|wb|sexhealing

10 Ways to Boost Your Sex Drive
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/sxarousal/0,,hr24,00.html?nlcid=sh|08-08-2007|



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