need some advice

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Registered: 08-21-2004
need some advice
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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 11:05pm
ok i'm a little embarrassed to talk about this with the usual people i do. sex with my bf is fantastic; it feels right and he knows what i like. but i also know that he really enjoys both blowjobs and anal sex. i'm fine with going down on him, but i have a horrible gag reflex. even if he cums a lot it can make me gag. is there anything i can do to try and make it better? i know that whenever i do go down on him he always enjoys it, but i'd like to make it better. as for anal, i'm just not a great big fan, probably because all the times before it hurt a lot. now we bought lube, but in a way i'm afraid to try it. i want to do it, and i want to like it, but i'm scared that i won't and it will hurt. there isn't pressure from him to be doing this, i know he wouldn't want to make me feel that way. but i'd like to do this for him. suggestions?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: arianaka
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 8:36am

With oral sex on him if you have a strong gag reflex when he ejaculates, you don't have to let him cum in your mouth.


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Registered: 11-15-2003
In reply to: arianaka
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 9:37am
arianaka,

I would have the same advice for you that I gave to Anne, be okay with your boundries and don't go any farther than what feels comfortable for you. When you are ready for a particular act then you will be ready. No need to force.

Scott.

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Registered: 07-22-2004
In reply to: arianaka
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 9:58am
I agree with the replies, and have a couple of thoughts to add as well. Hope they help.

Your gag situation is VERY normal. You probably already do this, but for those that may be reading anyway, keep the communication open. Not saying to discuss it , lol, but keep him mindful that you DO have gag issues and that you are even studying to relieve them. Many times I've read that THAT alone helped the situation so much more because of the patience that increased and because of the communication being that much more open and trusting.

For your concerns regarding anal, I couldn't word it any better than the replies so far, lol, but here's a couple of articles that have been very helpful for others:

5 Myths of Anal Sex Uncovered

http://www.ivillage.com/relationships/experts/experts_by_month/articles/0,,413030_443231,00.html

6 Do's and Don'ts of Anal Sex

http://www.ivillage.com/relationships/experts/sexpro/articles/0,,413030_272744,00.html

Good luck! :)

C h a r a c t e r


above all else


Mr. Para

 

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