Need some consoling & help!

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Need some consoling & help!
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Sun, 12-03-2006 - 2:37pm

Ok so last Saturday I had a very interesting night. I got very drunk and it was just stupid...in fact I've never gotten so drunk in my life.

Anyways, I just started seeing this guy a few weeks ago. We both were pretty drunk and we ended up having anal sex, which I had never had before. Apparently I liked it and wanted it at the time...now I know I hate it and am suffering. Didn't have any lube, just lotion and he didn't even put a condom on! It was so irresponsible.

Anyways, now my concern is that it still hurts down there after a week. There is occasional bleeding and I know I'm torn a bit. The mortifying part is that I had to tell my mom because she's a nurse and come to find out I also have a UTI...fun stuff. I hope that's all it is anyways. I told her about the anal escapade and she doesn't know much about it, just to give it time and it should heal. I haven't been having normal stools. They are normal color, but mostly diarrhea in the mornings. She says maybe the diarrhea is caused by stress from me worrying about it so much... Anybody experience this? Please tell me I'm not alone! Help!!

~Hanna

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Sun, 12-03-2006 - 2:52pm

Dh and I have anal sex but I've never had a problem with it so no experience with what you are discribing..


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Sun, 12-03-2006 - 8:33pm

Hanna ~~

Sorry for your pain, but I belive the tear will heal but Tish is right I agree it is time to see a Doctor, perhaps you could call the local Health Dept. They may not tell you much over the phone but may give a referal or offer a free or cheap exam.

Jason

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Sun, 12-03-2006 - 10:42pm
Ok, thanks. I think I will give it a few more days and then see a doctor.
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 10:37am
I'm so sorry this has happened to you and I hope you follow advice to see a Dr.
One thing that jumped out at me was that you had never engaged in this activity before and apparently have little or no recollection of having AS ( or giving your consent ). Is it at all possible that "this guy who you started seeing a few weeks ago" drugged you? It's hard to imagine getting drunk to the point of no memory and apparently no inhibitions without the other ills of excessive drinking ( vomiting just to name one ). Please see a Dr. and be honest with him/her and ask them to test you for exposure to date rape drugs ( may show up in some liver function test as well as biopsy of certian fatty area's as long as the exposure is not to far old). I would certianly be hesitant to be in isolated company with "this guy" if this is how he's going to take advantage of you.
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 7:28pm
i wouldnt stress so much about it. chances are you are really sore because you didnt use any lube...ouch! i have been sore from that before and i used lube. just give it time hun. if it doesnt heal in a couple weeks than i would get it checked out.
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 10:20pm

Thanks LeighKristen. No, I was not given a date rape drug. I do remember what happened, ,but most of the night was a blur. Was the first time I've been really drunk in 2 years and I just lost control of myself. Needless to say, I've learned! The guy I had anal with is still with me and after getting to know him even more, I have a pretty good feeling that he wouldn't do something like that.

My mom gave me suppositories and it is easing the pain a bit. Also on Correctol because haven't had a proper bowel movement in days. How long does it take to recover from something like this?! I know that there was no lube involved, just some lotion. God, I don't want to go back to that night!

Also I have a question about the UTI. I'm on an antibiotic my mom gave me...don't have the bottle with me at the moment. I only have painful urination after I shower, but not during the day. Also have a bit of pain in my vagina. Is this normal with a UTI?

I may just go and get STD tested for peace of mind. He says he has nothing, but I know with men some STD symptoms aren't as noticeable as they would be in women...

Thanks to all who have replied thus far...

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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 12:35pm
i know with uti's that pain with urination, cloudy urine, and strong smelling urine does occur. i would just keep taking your meds. uti's are very common in women and can take a while to clear up. i woulndt worry if i were you. good luck with everything:)
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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 1:11pm
the loose stools could also be from taking the antibotic (a side effect)
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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 3:29pm
very true:)
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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 8:49pm

Thanks to everyone. Just went to a clinic to get tested for STDs to be on the safe side...apparently I may have baterial vaginosis so I got a prescription to take care of that. The doctor said also keep taking the Bactrum for the UTI. As far as the anal area problem, he said it would most likely heal on its own, but if the pain lasts another week I should see my physician for a analoscopy (I think that's what he said).

Hopefully I don't have any other STDs. They will call me by Friday if I do...

Thanks again.