new bf not experienced

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Registered: 05-27-2004
new bf not experienced
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Wed, 07-07-2004 - 12:37pm
Hi, i'm new here... And just started having sex with my new boyfriend. I initiated it and he seemed nervous. My last boyfriend was very large and very wild and we had alot of fun doing freaky things, it was awesome chemistry. However, this new guy who is great, isn't as large at all and very shy about sex. I've tried to get him to open up alittle bit but i don't get the pleasure out of him like my ex. I think he knows i really like sex, he just isn't there yet. How do I get him to be aggressive with me and go for it. His member is very small and he doesn't last long yet, what can we do? Unfortunately it makes me miss my ex alot and I don't want this to ruin things. Please help

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 3:56pm
If you miss your ex......then why is he your ex? Obviously, things didn't work out..large penis, or not! It doesn't TAKE a large penis to satisfy a woman, if a man knows how to make love to a woman. There's a lot more to it than the penis, no matter what size it is.

You say you initiated sex with him.....maybe you're taking it too fast, maybe he's not READY to be sexually active. Of course he comes too fast.....that's because he's new at it. It takes time and experience for a man to learn to control himself, and also to learn how to please a woman. You've taken on the task of initiating sex with him, so if you want better performances from him, then TEACH him how. It's not going to happen overnight! You know what you like, he doesn't.....and the only way he'll find out is if you tell him, and show him what to do.

Most women would take an average sized man who knows how to give a woman pleasure with ALL his tools......than be with a large guy who thinks that's all he needs....and women will fall at his feet.

Forget about your ex, and concentrate on making this guy a good lover.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 5:00pm

First thing is to forget thinking about and comparing this guy to your ex.


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