new guy isnt circumsised what do i do?

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new guy isnt circumsised what do i do?
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Tue, 08-22-2006 - 1:57pm
im dating a new guy who isnt circumsised he's really great and i want to make him happy but ive never been with a guy in this particular situation - last night i really hurt him somehow by giving him a handjob...i dont realy know what i did wrong i asked but he seemed embarassed about explaining it what should i be doing different with handjobs oral and sex thatn i would with a guy whyo is circumsised?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 2:38pm
There should be NO difference in giving him oral or manual stimulation. Pulling back the foreskin to reveal the head and shaft is usually the 1st step. BUT if he enjoys the sensation of his foreskin slipping over the head during manual, then he needs to SHOW you how he does it. If he's not willing to do that, then he can expect more accidental injuries. Encourage him to SHOW you how he handles himself. That's really the only way to be sure you're doing it right.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 12:17am

There's really no difference, except there's more skin that moves up and down. The only way I can think of that you could hurt him would be to pull the skin very hard, and pull on the frenulum (the "cord" at the side of the tip, that attaches the head to the skin Here are pictures of it: http://www.foreskin.org/frenulum.htm) but that can happen with a circumcized guy, too! Next time, when you take hold of the shaft, make sure the extra skin is above your hand, closer to the head, so that you don't pull it too far down.

I don't get why he would be embarassed to explain to you why or how you hurt him. Tell him to explain it to you, because you don't want to hurt him again!

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 1:45am
I agree with Dakine. Although the skin generally slides around just fine without much in the way of problems, you can make it "pinch" if you are unlucky - but the most common problems that I would think that you'd have is pulling it back too far and kinda stretching it as you get enthusiastic and pump back and forth fast, or tweaking the frenulum as Dakine mentioned, or chaffing if he's not really lubed up and slippery. Other than that there isn't a lot of difference. There isn't really a lot that can go wrong so I think that I would ask him to explain it if I was you.
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Registered: 05-03-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 1:05pm
be gentle with him. and ask him how he likes to do it, ask him how he does it himself. and with oral, just be gentle and keep your teeth away =)
my honey says that not being circumsized provides extra pleasure just by slowing moving the foreskin up and down.
but uhh, ask him how he usually jacks off, then do it like he showed you!
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Registered: 08-08-2005
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 12:57am
actually, i enjoy being w/someone who is not circumsised apposed to someone that is. my dh is not and the extra skin does stimulate him more and it is easier for the slide of the hand. in those that i have been with that are circumsised, i needed lubrication gel for easy movement. in a bj, when you push back the foreskin, the skin is now at the bottom., so as u are giving the bj w/you lips on the upper part of the shaft, you stroke easily the bottom moving the extra skin up and down.