New guys is very small

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Registered: 03-27-2003
New guys is very small
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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 9:47am

My new guy and I slept together for the first time last night, and up till then, hadn't even been intimate enough for me to know his size...but when I brought it out and felt how small it was, I was disappointed.

I don't have any idea what size in inches...maybe 3" hard? Just a guess...

But here's the thing, I could barely feel it at all.

I've never been with someone small like that before, so can I get some tips on how to handle it? I really like him, and think we're going to be together long term...

And BTW, he's 6'5" and about 220...you would think that wouldn't make for a small penis, would you?

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Sun, 10-01-2006 - 10:39am

Unfortunately, body size has nothing to do with the size of "parts" of the body!

There's nothing you can do to change the size, so you have to change your expectations. There is a lot more to sex than intercourse, and there are a lot of ways he can give you pleasure besides intercourse. Women who are with average or larger sized men still need, want and enjoy foreplay, concentrating on oral and/or manual clitoral stimulation. Most women who are orgasmic will have orgasms during that foreplay, and intercourse is an anti-climax for them.

If he's skipping the foreplay, then you show him/teach him what you want and need from him. If he cares about you, he will be a willing student.

First time sex with anyone isn't usually earth moving. It takes time to get comfortable with each other, and to slow down and learn to pleasure each other properly. If life gives you lemons, you learn to make lemonade!

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Registered: 01-27-2006
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 8:45am

Sorry to hear about your plight! I had this happen to me once, but it turned out to have a positive ending. I don't think my guy was quite this small, but I also was SOOOOO disappointed at first as I really liked the guy and he was so well-built so I was expecting a fantabulous penis. But no! I was determined to make due, though, because he was lovely and amazing in other ways and I actually discovered that the sex turned out to be HOT once I figured out how to *ahem* work with it.

What worked for me was mainly being on top and, well, to put it mildly riding him pretty hard and fast, while grinding my clit against him. That way his penis would kinda hit the back of my cervix and felt SO Good!! Since he was small it didn't hurt! Just felt great. I had not experienced this with previous lovers who were too big for this kind of rough riding. I am relatively petite and this guy was fairly large so he was quite happy with this, too. I was able to orgasm from his very quick! Much quicker than usual even.

You can vary the rhythm so he doesn't finish too soon.

Hope this helps!

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Registered: 06-29-2006
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 5:24pm
This topic seems to eventually evolve to the point where it becomes obvious that since a man can do NOTHING to enlarge his penis, it falls to his SO to find a way to tighten things up if she hopes to have a successful union.
Kegels seem to be the only practical answer if one wishes to accommodate.
once.
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Registered: 01-27-2006
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 5:56pm
Well, he could use a penis extender.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 7:35pm

LOL...no, I think I'd rather have him all natural! LOL

It's not really a big deal, I'm OK with the size, it's not like I'm truly way bummed out or anything, b/c like the one previous poster said, he has so many other great attributes, that I wouldn't give them up in exchange for a larger penis.

We did do it with me on top the first time (his idea), so he must know that's how it works best. But I do like traditional missionary position best...do you think it might be possible to do it that way, or are the mechanics just going to prevent that?

And any other position or style ideas?

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Registered: 01-11-2004
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 10:55pm

Hi dakine001:

I have a 4 inch penis; I have learned to be a better lover because of my size. YOU two might look into senual massage, reflexology (feet and hands), etc.

Mac

 

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Registered: 10-03-2006
Tue, 10-03-2006 - 3:54pm
Break it off now! You know ulitmatley you will not be satisfied with this man. I know others here will jump on me but with that small of penus you will never be able to truly take him inside (mentally and physically). I think in the long run you will be sorry if you let this go on and get even more feelings for him. Its almost like asking someone to be satisfied with a man with no penus.