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| Fri, 04-16-2004 - 12:13pm |
Okay first off, this is a little embarassing and I'm not really sure how to go about talking about this. However, I really need some advice (any at all is greatly appreciated), and I just don't know where else to turn. I am 25, my fiance is 26, and we've been together on and off for ten years and have finally decided to get married. We already have two children together. I was under the false assumption that I knew this man like the back of my hand. We have always had amazing mind-blowing sex. However, recent events have led me to wonder if maybe he's bisexual. I was looking all over for my vibrator not long ago, and discovered that he himself had been using it. I was hurt initially and have been agonizing over this for weeks. I suppose the only reason I was hurt was that he felt he couldn't share this with me. We have always told eachother everything. So, I decided to try to get it out of him. I said we should spice up our sex life and talk about our fantasies. I got no real response from him until last night. He said I could use my vibrator on him if I wanted to! I can't believe it, but it really turned me on. We had the best sex ever. My question is...."Does this mean that he is indeed bisexual?" I'm not really sure how I feel now after the fact. Please help. Thanks in advance and sorry so long. -Nichole

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Try to get into a comfort zone with him about gay topics. He might open up to you. But don't pry it out of him.
cyaz
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Further, even if he is bi, who cares? He's with you and as you say, your sex is mind-blowing.
Why don't you just address it directly and clear the air? It doesn't seem that you have any reason not to trust him.
If this posts twice, sorry.
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Many, many men and women enjoy anal stimulation. I don't happen to be one of the them but I still do not consider it "gay" in nature. Why wouldn't cunnilingus considered a "lesbian act" based on that logic? Would you suspect a female partner to have secret lesbian desires just because she enjoys oral sex?
My DH and I enjoy anal play, but it took him years to finally enjoy it himself(although neither of us have been fully penetrated by any large objects)....and he's not gay or bisexual.
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