New marriage with no sex
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New marriage with no sex
| Sat, 06-26-2004 - 8:33am |
Hi all my name is jen I am 25 and I have 3 kids to the same man, but married another man who is 37. We have been married for over a month now and still have not had sex. My husband will lay next to me and get me all excited and then I think maybe it will happen, but then he always has to go to the bathroom or forgot about something on the computer. He gets an erection, I have performed oral on him seveal times. He can't be worried that I will get pregnant because I had a tubal ligation done. I don't know how to change this problem. We have a great relationship other than we don't have sex, unless I perform oral on him and I stopped doing that. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
Jen

1. Honey I want actual intercourse.
2. Honey, don't you like sex?
3. Could we talk about sex now?
4. I am worried about our sex life.
5. We are married, did you expect a sexless marriage?
6. How often did you expect to make love with me?
7. Do you have a medical problem not being able to have intercourse with me?
Don't let him be lazy and just take your BJ'S. Does he give you orgasms with his hands or mouth after you give him a bJ? See if he is just selfish or can't perform with intercourse.....
Speak up, explain how you feel, and tell him that you expect lovemaking AND reciprocation, not just to service him with oral sex.
If he has issues with penetration or porn, which sounds like it's a possibility, then he'll need therapy to overcome it.
If it started after you got married, then again, it's something you have to talk to HIM about, and get it settled once and for all. What did YOU say, and what did HE say when you decided to stop "servicing" him?
Talk to the man, and tell him you're not going to accept a sexless marriage.
You have to sit down with him and discuss your sex life.
You have to sit down with him and talk about this.