New relationship...sex question...

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Registered: 03-27-2003
New relationship...sex question...
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Thu, 03-06-2008 - 3:09pm
I just started dating this guy...I've never had this problem before so I don't really know how to handle it.




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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 03-06-2008 - 3:34pm

Hi Tanya,

I think the more attention you bring to the situation, the worse it will become. A lot of guys do have some ED (erectile dysfunction) when they're nervous. Often during the early stages of a relationship this happens and there could be many reasons for it. It could have to do with something from his past too.

Try to just go with what works, and see if the situation improves with a little time. If he thinks you're disappointed or wondering if there's something wrong with him (or perhaps he's wondering himself if there is), then it will just make him think about it more. The more he thinks about it, the worse it will become.

Keep us posted on how things are going.





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Registered: 01-04-2007
Thu, 03-06-2008 - 3:34pm

Has he been sexually active in the past?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-06-2008 - 3:43pm

Thank you for the responses...I do orgasm each time and let him know how good it was, etc...




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Registered: 02-17-2007
Thu, 03-06-2008 - 10:18pm

Especially after that comment you had mentioned him saying, I would say his nerves are getting the best of him.

 

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Registered: 03-15-2008
Sat, 03-15-2008 - 9:25pm

when me and my bf first started having sex i had the same problem as you except when we would start he was never able to get hard or if he did it didn't even last long enough to start anything.