New at sex.

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Registered: 10-30-2006
New at sex.
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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 10:17pm
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Edited 10/31/2006 8:17 am ET by phoenix88kl
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: phoenix88kl
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 11:15pm

You pretty much answered your own question. It takes a while to get comfortable with each other, it takes a while for you to find each other's hot spots, and to know your OWN hot spots so you can tell him where they are and what to do.....particularly when you're a virgin.

When you say he didn't finish the second time, do you mean two times in a row, on the same occasion? If that's what you mean, a lot of guys are only good for one time, unless they recouperate for an hour or two. If you mean two separate times....again, sometimes guys just can't.......no particular reason, and certainly NOTHING to do with you.

Also, as a beginner, be glad it wasn't painful for you, and hopefully, you're not expecting what you read in romance novels, or see in the movies. The "earth doesn't usually move"......and not everyone has screaming orgasms. If you're enjoying the time with him, enjoy it, don't analyze it. Learn to relax and go with the flow.

Last but not least, hopefully you know most women, about 80%, have little or no real "response" to intercourse. That's only one part of sex....and for most women, the real "pleasure" and "feeling" is from clitoral stimulation, during foreplay, or during intercourse. For more info on the female sexual response, check out www.the-clitoris.com